You only live once and everyone deserves happiness!, put it this way would you want this happiness for your children when it\'s their turn to meet the right person?
I would, as hard as it is , sit down with your husband and talk it through it may take a few emotional chats but you will know for sure how you both really feel.
You are going to throw away a MARRIAGE with KIDS for an online romance?
Write back when you have spent TIME with this man and get a reality check on the impact this computer romance will have on the people around you.
I think you need to get off the computer and deal with your husband and your marriage.
There is always going to be a negative, or some negatives in a relationship or some imperfection with the other person. It may be little or it may be major. But usually something is there.
The concern I have as well as the other people above me is that you've never met this person in real life. People in real life and over the internet can turn out to be quite different sometimes. Plus you seem to be in that in-love spark phase, where you think everything is fine and dandy about person X, couldn't be better. Which may be causing your perceptions of things like the relationship with your husband to seem amiss.
From what I can gather you and your husband have not been really participating in the relationship you two set out for a while. As you said you spend most days with this guy, which insinuates quite a care-free attitude with your husband when it comes to you interacting. It seems both of you have just kinda let that happen, as such you feel you're not attracted to him anymore. Since there is little interaction now.
So basically your relationship has been at a low in terms of interactivity therefore you've lost interest, you've found a guy you've got a spark of interest in and therefore you now deem him the next best thing and jump onto him.
I have to really wonder, you say "he does more for me than a man who has been trying for 11 years." He's being *trying* for 11 years? That implies you haven't really been trying to fix problems in your relationship if he's been the only one trying.
Those are just some of my thoughts in what could be happening right now, it could be that you'll have a happier life with this man, or not. Real life is different from the internet, he may have some physical habits or tendencies you don't like. You may just be love-struck, as such it's hindering your vision as to your feelings towards your current husband and the problems that may be evident in the relationship making it not work.
Just think things over, make sure you're not going to leave this person unhappy and then go to the other relationship and it may not meet your expectations and then you live with this regret for a long time.
A lot of things said here may be true or untrue, it's based on little evidence I could pull from what you said.
Hope it was insightful.
I would try and spend some time with him in reality......
Let me ask you one question ...... would you consider leaving your marriage if you did not meet this person?
It would be a rebound from your marriage they usually start out that way intense and mind blowing because you have been starved of love.
What I am saying is this is a sign that you wanted to escape and he too.
Where is it on the ground, in reality? You will be risking your life.
Look I know we only get one life and all that and I am not in your head or his head.
I think you should talk to your husband and tell him the truth of what is happening....
Are you sure this guy will tell his wife ?
Be careful you could get hurt badly and lives ruined.
This thread has expired, but why not create your own?