It's been a year but...
So me and a girl have been going out for a year. Things right from the beginning started moving really fast. We have gone through a lot and accomplished a lot together. She just recently told me right after we move into an apartment together that she feels like she has reached a point where our love isn't growing (meaning her love for me) that she's not sure if she wants to be with me forever (no marriage proposal so I don't know why she is thinking that way) that she is starting to become curious as to what else there is out there. We have a decent sexual life we are still attracted to each other and we still have sex. But she doesn't want me to be lovey or even be around her sometimes. I understand that she needs space. I do to. She makes dinner and does special things for me and will go out of her way to do special things for me. As do I for her. I bring her breakfast in bed on the weekends and make her lunch for work. We have a good relationship. Or so it still seems. Kinda boring sometimes but that's why I'm planning a trip to run around and explore have fun with her. See and experience things we both haven't seen or done. I just don't know what else I can do. She was super lovey and amazing I couldn't have been happier. Now I try to figure out why she pulls away from kisses and gets upset when I try to cuddle and be lovey to her. Idk I'm just confused. Any ideas or help would be awesome?
I understand your frustration, in a sense of hearing it myself from others. I do too find being close and "lovey" difficult. Sometimes i want to cuddle, other times, the idea disgusts me. Still not 100% sure why, i just get an overwhelming feeling of anxiety and the feeling of suffocation. It is of course my issues and not linked to my partner.
May i suggest, stop trying to cuddle and be lovey with her? At least, tone the lovey down a tad. I know, that the more my partner tried to hug and kiss me, the more i hated it. Then it just turned into me kissing him back to make him happy. Why be close in this way with a person who is only doing it to make you happy? Wait for her to come to you, this may be difficult though.
Taking a trip does sound like a good idea, also, you could try a date night/day? To which you do different things on those night/day, once a week. So, go bungee jumping? or keep it simple and just do things she has always wanted to do, that are outgoing and fun.
It's your decision if you wish to stay in this relationship, you need to remember to do what makes you happy, not focus on other people. Easier said than done, i know personally. But, if you have decided you wish to work on the relationship, not fixating on the future is probably the best thing, take every day, have fun and be relaxed. Never force anything. Relationships, i believe, should be natural, go at their own pace. I am just starting to learn this.
Hope i have helped in some way.
Sounds like she has you in the "brother zone."
She owes you some honesty, but I think you revealed it in your pose when you said she is "starting to become curious as to what else is out there."
Pulling away from affection, after a lovey past, is a real indicator.
Get this straightened out ASAP.