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Relationship advice Hi there.

My boyfriend and I were perfectly happy. We had ups and downs like everyone else does. We were planning a baby, had just come back from a lovely weekend away. He said I was the absolute love of his life, the one he wanted to spend the rest of his days with and raise a family with. Then one night changed everything. His friends on a night out told him I might not be the "right person for him" long term. He must have agreed because 2 days later, out of the clear blue sky, over the phone, he ended it. Just like that. Said he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore, or be attached, wanted to be single and alone, said he "wasn't boyfriend material".

Just like that my whole world was ripped away. I tried to be calm and strong and accept, but it was so hard. Two days later I had a miscarriage. The irony. He came over and comforted me and I (stupidly) thought everything might be saved. Then the following day, he told me that I hadn't even known I was pregnant, so what was I getting so upset about. He was awful to me, looked at me like he totally hated me all of a sudden. I was devastated. He said he didn't know what he wanted. Then said he wanted to try again in the same breath. I had enough. I told him to leave and I have not heard from him since.

What happened? How did it happen so quickly? Did he not ever love me? If anyone has any advice please please share. Thank you x

Why did this happen??

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Well, he told you he didn't know what he wanted - both before and after the pregnancy. wonder if you really heard him.

My sympathy about your miscarriage, but don't expect him to understand about this. It means much more to you than him.

He needs some space. He may or may not come back, but you need to really think about taking a guy back who was not there in a supportive way, even if he had no intention of coming back.




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I agree with the what SUSIDQ said in that you'd have to think twice about a relationship with a guy who wasnt supportive during such an intense moment. That being said, he sounds confused and like he may of kept delaying it because he felt indifferent and he didnt want to hurt you. Although it was important to you, there may be no particular reason on his part. Rather than churning reasons in your head, because that could be endless with no resolution. It's best to give some space to heal then let it go. Someone much more supportive is bound to come along.

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