Getting over certain things
So my boyfriend and I have been together for 6months. We were best friends before we got together for about 2 years. About 4-5months before we got together officially we were friends with benefits. A few things happened around that time, nothing major but caused a bit of jealousy from both of us. It took me a while to get over things even when we got togetherbut I talked to him about it and I've managed to put it in the past. About 2months ago he told me (when we were having an argument/serious talk) that he had been talking to his ex. Apparently she contacted him for help and needed someone. He was in contact with her for a bit and never told me until i asked him "is there anything you need to tell me, before our relationship goes any further?" He said he didn't wanna tell me because he knew i would be hurt and I half believe that but I can't help but feel like he was keeping it a secret so he doesn't have to deal with it and he new he was wrong. Now everytime I see his ex or something happens that reminds me of what happened I get angry and hate him. I told him exactly how it made me feel etc he doesn't think he did anything wrong, all he says is "sorry Im a caring person" I can't help but think he's still talking to her and keeping it a secret or doing something else and keeping it a secret. He has tried to apologise but I just can't believe him. I love him but it will always be on my mind and i don't know how to get past it? help anyone.
The problem is if he says he's a caring person then he would have told you upfront when his ex first contacted him. That way he would have been honest as well as caring.
You need to step back and ask yourself if he's
worth it and if he will
mature in the future to
make it worth it.
It's all ok to be friends with benefits for 2 years but when you do get together, and the real person comes to the fore, it's extremely difficult to deal with that person.
such bs. He is a "caring person" with the wrong person. So he can be a "caring person" by sneaking around behind your back to text his ex but he cant be a "caring person" to you and be honest. Hes a real piece of work.
You have stated ONE incident, and you are like a dog with a bone - won't let go of it.
Why do you persist in asking and pushing him to tell you his every thought and deed from the past? Believe him that he simply gave her the information and then moved on. Do you have any other information?
Unless you have PROOF that he is continuing to see her (or anyone else) then believe him and lay off the paranoia. You are going to drive him away with your jealousy and insecurity.