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Is my relationship over?

LOVELYBIRD
- Jun 18 2014 at 13:05
Member since: Jun 2014
Relationship advice I been in a relationship for about 2 years and a half , at the beginning it was a normal relationship , there wasn't a lot of feelings involve , but over time between fights and disagreements but always getting back together , we learn to love each other more and deeper , our love was so strong that no matter what would happen we always find the way to get over our arguments and go back to loving each other even deeper. My problem now is that my ex is acting really weird , i believe is because peer pressure , since his friends always want to be taking him out to parties and places , he've changed with me a lot. He went from loving me to treating me really bad , verbally , && emotionally. He now tells me things he would've never tell me , he treats me like i was never nothing in his life. It hurts me so much because although we're young we made plans , he was my goofy prince he would hold me so tight and tell me someday babygirl we gonna get marry have kids and house . His little details were the ones that made me the happiest. He gave me a promise ring and told me that night that he would love me forever. But now i dont understand what happen how we been arguing for a while and there's seem to be no solution, he tells me he don't love me anymore that he wants to enjoy life , get with every girl he can , that he dont want any committee relationships , and all he does is go out with his friends get drunk almost everyday and it hurts me seen the person i love the most doing all those things because at the end of the day i know he still loves me i can feel it , we were together few days ago at night just us 2 and the way he looked at me and talk to me remembering all of our fun memories , i saw it in his eyes the love he still felt for me that night , but the next day i tried to talk to him even more telling him how much i miss him and how we should get back to how we used to be and he would just ignore me . Then the same day at noon i called him and the worst thing happened , he told me you cant be calling me like that because what about if am with some other girl!. Ever since that i been crying because i went from being the girl he loves the most to just another girl. My relationship is over but i don't know how to get over it , how do i deal with the idea that he has other girls and the things his doing. I really love him we were together for two years and he didn't even appreciate that. People tell me he doesnt deserve me because am too nice of a person but the problem is i really really love him and is getting hard fore to get over him /: .

Is my relationship over?

COLDSNOWBUNNY
- Jun 18 2014 at 14:41
Member since: Jun 2014
okay you need to stop. I hear this a lot.

"I can see it in his eyes" Don't look for what's in his eyes. Listen to what comes out of his mouth. He wants to get with every girl he can. He doesn't want a serious relationship. He want to get drunk every night with his friends.

"I know he still loves me I can feel it"

So...is this what love feels like? He treats you bad and tells you hurt full things. Plays games by spending the night being sweet then the next day telling you you cant call him because he might be with another girl.

DONT BE HIS DOORMAT. No one respects doormats. He will not respect you. You fell for a man, he told you some sweet stories and now you find out hes a jerk. Welcome to woman hood. It will probably happen a few times before you find "the one". Don't hang on to this one, hes not a keeper.

Delete/block his number, ignore his calls, avoid places he will go. Turn your back to him if he approaches you in the street.

Be a strong woman.

Is my relationship over?

PSYCH
- Jun 18 2014 at 20:13
Member since: Jun 2014
There is nothingmorebeautiful when you find the person who can sweep you off your feet but also make you blood boil. I'll do a question and answer with you, please don't feel you have to answer if too personal but maybe questions to ask yourself. Do you believe you have high self esteem or not so great self esteem? Did this guy at the beginning make you feel you were the only women in the world for him? Do his moods turn faster than a speeding bullett? Do you find you offer everything available to him to get him back? Does he offer the same? Does he play on your insecurities, especially the ones he knows will hurt the most? Take some time to think and answer maybe to yourself and if your comfortable enough, I would love to hear how your feeling. I'm concerned that you are an incredible and caring person who some people can take advantage of especially if life has been rough. Speaking from experience. X

Is my relationship over?

PSYCH
- Jun 18 2014 at 20:14
Member since: Jun 2014
There is nothingmorebeautiful when you find the person who can sweep you off your feet but also make you blood boil. I'll do a question and answer with you, please don't feel you have to answer if too personal but maybe questions to ask yourself. Do you believe you have high self esteem or not so great self esteem? Did this guy at the beginning make you feel you were the only women in the world for him? Do his moods turn faster than a speeding bullett? Do you find you offer everything available to him to get him back? Does he offer the same? Does he play on your insecurities, especially the ones he knows will hurt the most? Take some time to think and answer maybe to yourself and if your comfortable enough, I would love to hear how your feeling. I'm concerned that you are an incredible and caring person who some people can take advantage of especially if life has been rough. Speaking from experience. X

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