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Hi I am just looking for any advice from anyone who may have been in a similar situation. I am male and 21 years old my partner is 20 and we have been together for 6 years she was 14 and I was 15 when we got together. I have spent all my teenage years with her growing up together there has never been any 'breaks' or any thing like that just a solid 6 years together. I went to uni she come a year later and we have lived together in our own place since then for nearly 2 years now. Now for probably 12 months maybe more she just shows no interest in me, never wants to do anything with me never speaks to me never compliments me never wants sex with me nothing. I am confident she no longer fancies me which is why she dont want sex which I know I can do nothing about but I can never seem to get any kind of conversation out off her never anything fun from her, its just like she is with me for the sake of it. Ive tried talking to her, she tells me im wrong but then basically she will just have sympathy sex and like be extra extra nice saying there is no problem etc and literally it will last one day. I fall for it every time of course but then she is back to her usual self, there is no excitement between us she moans about every single thing i do, nothing i do is right and i have no idea what I can or should do. Please Help :)

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Dave, if you're confident she no longer fancies you then she's basically become just a friend. If the magic's gone then your relationship is over as you knew it. It takes two people to continually put in to make a relationship work. When one stops, it fails. Your GF has stopped(going by your post)and you need to make a decision..she either talks to you about it or you make plans to move on. 6 years together speaks history, but if you both are no longer happy together then its time to part ways.

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You both were very young when you got together and have been together for some time. You are childhood sweethearts so dont give up on the relationship just yet. It just cant start off any better than that!!! What you need to communicate to your gf is that if she wants the relationship to work, then she needs to put the effort in. Tell her how you feel and when you feel her behaviour has changed bring her up on it. You feel she doesnt give you any compliments? Ok, so when you do make that bit of effort and she fails to compliment you then again, bring her up on it. Tell her that (example) you had a haircut and she didnt even notice OR that you dressed to impress for her today and she didnt even compliment you. Show her everytime you feel she is being cold. Just remember though that she could just be genuinly stressed out. Either from work or general everyday worries. The most important factor for you now is communication. Tell her your inner concerns.

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Excitement comes with change. Being together for 6 years you both must have reached the know it all about each other, which makes the relationship boring. If she is not noticing you, not talking properly it could be because there is nothing interesting to talk about and do together! You both need to sit together and make some changes in your lives together. Do something thats interesting to both which you have never tried before? Also need to bring changes and surprises into your lives. You need to surprise her with acts and things which would please her. Nothing you do is right because she has fallen out of love. You will need to woo her again if you want to stay together.

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She seems somewhat resentful and restless. Could it be that she is dissatisfied with her OWN life, and it taking that out on you and the relationship? Vital years have been spent only with each other. She seems like she needs to explore the outside world. Ask her if she needs time for herself. PS - It might be a good idea if you were on your own for a while, too. If this is meant to be, you will come back to each other.

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