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Don't know who to choose

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Emotional advice I need an advice. Currently I stayed with my 4 years Girlfriend. For first 2 years we are happy. But on 3rd year, I got to know that she have an affair. After I confronted her, she asked for a second chance. I gave her a second chance but few months later again, I found out that she cheated on me with the same person. After all what she have done to me, I asked for break off but she can't see me walk away from her life. She told me she need me still. She tried to commit suicide. I have no choice than to stay with her although I have no feelings for her anymore. I still stay in the same house because of the memory. well... actually i dunno if i still love her or not.

Recently, I met this girl. She is caring, sweet, beautiful girl. At first I dont know either I fall in love or fall in lust with her. This girl is working in the club. After I spend 5 days with her, stayed at her place, I noticed that this girl is a lonely girl. Need someone to be with her or to love her. She told me she love me. Although our relationship's still new.

I'm confused now. I dont know either to let go my 4 years girlfriend who cheated on me twice or give a chance to a girl that I just met about a month ago. Please help me to choose. Thanks.

Don't know who to choose

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You already chose when you stayed with her for 5 days. Just like you GF chose when she cheated on you. You cant stay with a person just because they threaten suicide. She made her choice and so have you now you both need to finish the job. Its not fair to any one in this weird love circle to continue in this way. Not fair to you to stay with a person who cheated on you and to miss out on something with this new person, not fair to your current GF to stay with her when you don't even know if you love her and want to be with another. Not fair to this new person to be with her and then also be with your GF. You already chose this new person whenyou stayed with her for 5 days and stayed over night with her. You need to finish the job so all of you can move on.

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Only YOU have the answer to that question.

But, your first gf has cheated on you twice, not once but twice. First time could be classed as a mistake but the second time was a choice on her part. She knew what she was doing but chose to ignore the consequences of what could have hapened to the both you, ie break up.

Dont let HER decide as to whether you stay OR go. But at the same time dont leave her for a woman you hardly know! You should leave the relationship because you want to NOT because you have another woman in the picture. You know nothing about this new woman and if you make a decision based on her, this could have even worse consequences for you in the near future, especially if things do not turn out the way you expected.

Take a step back, leave both of the women for some time and during that time, THINK about what you want to do. Being on your own is not so bad. Maybe after having some time out, you may realise you dont want either of them and MAY even think its time YOU raised YOUR standards as to what future partner you really do want. Good luck.

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