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I have been in a relationship with my fiancee for 3 years now and it's a very loving relationship. However my fiancee recently questioned my sexuality due to a number of things: I enjoy foreplay but do not enjoy sex, women in porn turn me on but men don't. On the other hand I have never felt sexually attracted to another woman nor have I ever wanted to be in a relationship with one. He says he has known a few women who have felt the same and later turned out to be gay. I'm worried because I love my fiancee very much and I can't imagine not being with him. I just want to hear from anyone who can help me, whether you have been in this situation or not. Thanks for reading and thanks for any advice.

Am I gay?

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omg I don't think you are gay. The only thing here is you enjoy fore play more than sex and that you enjoy watching women in porn? Really a lot of women enjoy fore play more. Some feel more please outside then inside and skin has a lot of nerve endings. And I watch/get turned on by watching gang b, and double penetration porn but I wouldn't actually want to participate in it. Porn is for fantasy purposes. That's why they have the whole jail scenes where the woman is tied up and had by her 5 jail guards....its fake. You wouldn't really want that to happen to you. Don't worry about being gay. Besides I'm bisexual and have been in a relationship with my bf for 3 years. It only means when I'm single I am attracted to and open to dating both male and female. You love who you love and are in a happy relationship (right?). If you have never been sexually attracted to a woman then you are not gay. Porn is porn, not real life.

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From what I see here, you're not gay. I am a lesbian and I find straight porn and porn with two men very appealing, but that doesn't mean for one second I would be interested in sexually being with a man. Sexual pleasure is very unique to the person experiencing it and different things being done cause different reactions. For example: S&M--it's some people's best fantasy and others' nightmare. I don't think you or your fiancée should be concerned about your sexuality and its effect on your sex life because it sounds to me that you just get turned on by non-straight stereotypes. Sex is about making your partner feel as pleasured and as good about themselves as possible and your fiancée will respect that you have certain preferences.

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From what I see here, you're not gay. I am a lesbian and I find straight porn and porn with two men very appealing, but that doesn't mean for one second I would be interested in sexually being with a man. Sexual pleasure is very unique to the person experiencing it and different things being done cause different reactions. For example: S&M--it's some people's best fantasy and others' nightmare. I don't think you or your fiancée should be concerned about your sexuality and its effect on your sex life because it sounds to me that you just get turned on by non-straight stereotypes. Sex is about making your partner feel as pleasured and as good about themselves as possible and your fiancée will respect that you have certain preferences.

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Well, I am not a lesbian or bi and I can tell you I like to watch another woman being pleased during sex. I also like foreplay better than actual sex. Foreplay hits the "spots" I like best. Stop this discussion with your man. He can't handle it.

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Hmmm, a guy speaking here, but I just have to point out something; guy's and girl's sexuality is quite different; both heterosexual, bisexual and homosexual men are aroused by a similar pattern of stimulus (naked bodies etc), while both heterosexual, bisexual and homosexual women are aroused by a different pattern of stimulus (sexual activity arouses, not necessarily the participants). As I understand it it's a lot less clear-cut for women. In any case, I've heard of homosexual people entering into opposite-sex relationships because they love someone so much, and heterosexual people going into same-sex relationship for the exact same reason. Don't be frightened of your sexuality, just let it unfold, and unless it's really sinister or something there's not much to worry about.

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you are so not gay. tell your man that the only reason you like porn with women in it is because you can relate to them. when the pretty woman on the tv has a big smile on her face and her eyes roll into the back of her head, its exciting because you KNOW how she feels. you cant relate to the guys, you dont have the same "equipment" and besides you only have eyes for your fiance. tell him to stop tellin you how YOU feel. if he stops making himself think you dont like his "equipment" maybe he can focus on pleasing you better. you both will feel better after he gives you that big o face like the girls on the tv

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