My ex is married and still want me back
I'm new here and just want to share some of the internal problem have been facing for almost 6yrs. My ex and started dating in the late 90s. She was stil a virgin. I got her virginity in 2006 November and got pregnant for me after so many fun we had after then. In Feb 2007, Jan, she told me she was pregnant which I said no to pregnancy at that time. I gave her an advice to abort it which she didn't but she has someone else who promised to claim the pregnancy if I am not ready to father the baby. We lost contact together as I never prepared then to have a baby. Few months after we lost contact, I heard she did her wedding with same guy. To cut the story short. She gave birth same year and started calling me back. She visited me when the baby was 9months old and we still had sex together.
Ever since then, she has been coming to me twice a week and sometimes she comes to me to spend her annual vacation. The baby is 6yrs old and she has not given birth after the first baby she had. I need an advise please, I love her so much and she love me more.
Though there were pressures from her husband to give birth to another baby but she insisted she would come back to me and have all her baby. Advise please
I can't understand....Whats the advise you are looking for? Why is she cheating on her husband? Why can't she just break up and join in with you?
Who does the child think is his father? Its really too bad you two could not have figured this out before having involved another man and letting the child get so old as to now know some thing is wrong.
Pretty selfish on both of your behalves. Now you have another man who has been caring for your child for the past 6years and married to a woman who is now cheating on him. I feel no sadness for you two and what you are doing to this stand up man. I suggest his cheating wife divorce him since she can not be faithful to him and you prepare to care for your son but also understand that this man has been caring for him for the child's entire life, he needs to continue to be a part of that child's life. It would be cruel to rip them apart now.
I think there is probably more to this story then you are telling. Why would she continue to stay with him if at 9 months after the child's birth she came back to you. It was early and she could have made the switch with little trauma to the child.
I decided not to say anything bc she begged me not to do so. Promising she will leave him soon and have other children for me. I am confuse, think she should get divorce first before coming to me. Please advice.
I think she is playing you. She could have got a divorce from him any time during the last 6years. Why should she? She has him paying her bills and raising her child and she has you for sex twice a week.
If she wanted to divorce him she would have. She doesn't want to.
Do you have a steady job? Could you provide for her at the standard she is at? Who does the child think his father is? You didn't answer those questions.
Yeah you should tell her to stop cheating on her husband with you. If you want her 100% then tell her she needs to make a choice. If she really loved you she would have made that choice or stayed out of your bed until she could.
she will not divorce him if she can have both of you. You need to stand up for yourself too and tell her you will not be her side man. She sleeps with you but then goes back to her husband. You are not her husband. She chose another to be her husband. And for 6 years she still has chosen to remain with her husband. That has to tell you something right there doesn't it.