Over a period of eight months he became disruptive coming and going as he please disrespectful and i have to say not nice to live with. We discussed his negative attitude and the impact it was having on the family, however he could not see any problem.
After refusing to help round the house and not paying something to keep i told him to leave he smashed the windows in the house and left, saying he hated me and my partner.
Its been a month now we keep in contact and i know he has had an interview for a job. He seems calmer and regrets his actions.
I have been told that he has been hanging around with a local drug dealer. He wants to come back home i want him to come home but my problem is my partner does not want him back. She says that she will not live in fear. I fully understand this but i need your thoughts please. Its tearing me apart.
Please be has honest as you can. Many thanks
You will always love him because he is your son but to your partner and the rest of the world he will have to earn their trust and respect again.
Call him over have him stay with you and monitor his behaviour. Call him back home. If he enters the path of self destruction you, as his father will be in a lot more pain.
A "contract" should be in place. He should either have a full time job OR be in school. If he works, he needs to pay a fee out of his check to help out. (As do all the other kids). Do not tolerate any alcohol or drug use by this kid.
You must bring in professionals to deal with the entire family and especially this one child.
He may need in-patient psychological treatment. NOW is the time to get that taken care of. 17 is a kind of limbo time for kids - still a child, yet nearly adult, legally.
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