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He left me for someone else

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Everything was goin perfect we had been together 5 years and planning to get married in august. And in April we had a bit of a row buy he seem to carry it on for nearly 2 weeks which was not like him and then he sed he wanted space but then text me and sed it was over....sed we just don't get on anymore and we always row...which wasn't true. Things were paid and booked to get married. 2 days later I found out he had moved in with someone he works with..but apparently nothing was goin on whilst we was together..she has a child too. We has a few rows over the phone over the next week or so and he was horrible. So I then deciede to block him number and that was it.. i was dealing with it ok until a week or so later he got in touch sayin he made a mistake misses Me and everything we had. We started texting and meeting up.... he sed the was Ending it with her but doin it al by making her feel he is unhappy there and causing rows..he sed he was we was gonna sort things out planned r future what we was guna sort etc he loved me and missed me... text mornin til night. Until we had a bit of a row and at this point he was suffering from depression cryin, down and wasn't himself. He sed it was al too much and he needed to sort himself out but then he ran bk to her . So I told her what ad been happening and she wasn't bothered. A week later I called at his work to hand some stuff over and we got chatting and he was sortin his depression out and was insisting on letting me kno how he was gettin on. We started emailing each other for 2 weeks and he sed everything he did before bout not seeing a future with her and all that and he loves me etc etc. He leaves her and takes his fings I mention something about trust and he flipped sayin I wil never trust and all that and h e sed he just wants to b on his own and a day later moves bk in with her. Again I told her what he ad been doin. .. next day they r engaged? I just don't get It? How can someone say they r unhappy there but then can't leave? How can he say all that stuff to me... keep me goin for 7weeks.....so confused and upset...don't kno how to move on coz I'm stupid n stil love him

He left me for someone else

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I'm really sorry this happened to you. If you read my advice on other peoples situations you will see that I am a big believer of keeping emotions under control. I think when we forgive too quickly or show others that we can be "won over" too soon it puts us un a bad place, a place where we can be taken advantage of. I my opinion you made yourself too available to him because you state you are still in love with him. We can be in love with a person and still hold our self respect. Not let ourselves be available for them to come crying back to. If he really wanted you back you should have made him earn it. You don't text the man morning till night who left you for another woman. It is my belief that people respect and appreciate the things that they have to work for. If you were too easy to get back with then he would not respect you and could take you for granted. I hope you fall out of love with him soon. He was a real jerk to bounce you around like that. he doesn't seem to care about your feelings or the other woman's feelings only his own.

He left me for someone else

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You said, "don't kno how to move on coz I'm stupid n stil love him" Why???? His actions almost sound bi-polar. He plans marriage with you, then is depressed, then engaged to someone else the next day, then back to you, then back to her . . . Can't you see that he is in need of psychological help, not another relationship? Run, run away from this guy. He will drive you crazy with his behavior and you will never be able to trust him. You said it yourself: I am stupid. Do you really want to live like this?

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