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Do you think I should tell a guy, before meeting, that I'm overweight?

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We first started speaking about a month ago on Twitter. He's in a small band who are just starting out. I know he is who he says he is as he initially contacted me privately through his bands account, after i complimented their new single. After that, he contacted me on his personal account. Ever since then, we've spoke every day. Usually for at least 5 hours a day. Apart from a close friend, i've never felt this comfortable speaking to someone before. Our conversations usually consist of personal things about our life, innocent flirting and then recently, the conversation has steered to more sexual topics, which i'm fine with. 2 days ago however, we began sexting. No photos, just words. This was completely unlike me, i'm usually nervous about things like this, but it felt comfortable. I get the impression he wants to meet. We stay roughly 4 hours away from each other. I'm extremely nervous about meeting. I'm fairly sure if we were to meet, i would still like him the same. The problem is, i don't know how to go about telling him (if i should) about my weight. I don't want either myself or him traveling and then him being shocked and surprised. I would completely understand if he wasn't interested in me in a romantic way, that's understandable. Everyone has preferences. I just feel that we have a connection, even as a friendship and i wouldn't want to lose that. I just don't know how to approach this. The photos i have posted are myself, they're only photos of my face however. I've not lied about my weight, just haven't told him. With him being in a band, they'll begin touring soon. There's a good chance they'll come here, so i couldn't exactly not go. It could just be innocent flirting, but it feels different lately. I would really appreciate some input. What would you do if you were in my situation? OR what would you want if you were in his position? I'm smart enough to know that if we were to meet up, i would do it in a public place, during the day. Thanks

Do you think I should tell a guy, before meeting, that I'm overweight?

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Before you travel all that way, get to know him better. If you are going to be anything other than a cyber-sexting partner, then you need to skype and show yourself - and him to you, too.

Do you think I should tell a guy, before meeting, that I'm overweight?

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It sounds like you are insecure about your weight. You may want to work on that. If you have not lied or led him to believe you are something that you are not then don't worry about it. You're right. He may not like the way you look but that is his problem. If you are worried about the face to face rejection from him then take a nice full body photo (noting risqué) so he will have a chance to get use to the idea. Something like you on a swing or whatever. If he has a picture of you he made up and its in his head it would be a shock to see you in person. So the full body pic would give him a chance to get use to the idea of you being over weight.

Do you think I should tell a guy, before meeting, that I'm overweight?

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and one more thing. OMG 5 hours a day? My life is not that interesting to talk to some one for 5 hrs a day every day. Good for you :)

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