Totally different issue now...
I have a summer job, and at the beginning of the season, i met a coworker named Tyler. We became friends, and i eventually started liking him as more than a friend, and for some reason I thought he returned the feeling. I never acted on my feelings though.
After one or two weeks of hardcore liking Tyler, I found out he had a girlfriend. He never gets to see her though, but he talks about her all the time.
We're still friends, very close friends actually, but i managed to somehow put my feelings to bed about how i liked him.
These past two weeks, they've started again. I don't know why. Maybe because some of the other guys i work with made a bet at whoever could grab a certain body part of mine first won $20 and Tyler stood up for me and told them they were way out of line. When they still didnt stop, he sat with me for the rest of the day instead of doing his job (which could've, but didn't get him in trouble with our boss). The next day, he talked to me about how women should get respect and how what the guys did was wrong, degrading, disrespectful, and inappropriate.
Anyway, the feelings are back. I want our relationship to develop into something more than just a close friendship, but he has a girlfriend. He's too good of a guy to be unfaithful to her, and I'm too good of a girl to even ask him to be. Because if he'll cheat on her with me, he'd cheat on me with someone else.
I'm not exactly sure what to do. Do i just keep the feelings to myself and wait for the day that they break up (he hasn't talked about her as much lately. Does that mean something?) or do I tell him? I'm just really confused on how to deal with the issue. Any ideas on how to deal with my feelings?
It's best to keep your feelings to yourself. He sounds like a nice guy, and I think you putting your feelings or there would make things very uncomfortable, and unfair for him. He has made it clear he has a girl friend. He probably already senses the feelings you have and that's why he talked about her so much. Just get through the summer and find someone available. Show him the same respect he has shown you.