Reading some topics here and in other internet forums, I think I can introduce myself as the neglective b*tch described by some boyfriends
Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year now. It was something unexpected for both of us since we had been friends for years (although we were distant after college). Like any other couple we enjoyed each other's company, liked to cuddle , have sex, etc. But, a couple of months ago, I started to feel different. Sometimes, I don't wanna be with him. I use work to avoid being with him. And having sex... I just want to postpone it... :/
Due to his work, our relationship was frequently, a long distance one. (NOTE: we talk every day, through facebook, since the time I wake up to the time we go to sleep) And even so, I would feel reluctant about the idea of spending the weekend with him :/ Now, he's staying , at least for the summer (until september) and that makes me feel suffocated by anticipation.
Sometimes I think I'm outta love, plain and simple. I have no interest in anyone else and he didn't do anything to hurt me or make me feel bad, much to the contrary. And that's why i feel like a total b*tch
A lot of times, I find myself thinking that he's not physically attractive , he has put on some weight since we're together (just writing this makes me feel like the worst person in the world.)
I've tried everything to understand what's going on with me. I already thought I have Relationship OCD (I've been an OCD sufferer since I can remember). But what if I'm just not into him anymore? I hate the idea of making him suffer, and I also don't want to regret any attitude I have now.
I just don't know what to do...
BLUESOOKIE, what has happened is that there was space between your boyfriend and yourself, that was until he decided to stay, the both of you were able to spend more time together physically, not daily on facebook, after a couple of months, your emotions and feelings started to change. Ask yourself these questions: What made me change? Why do I make excuses now and try to avoid him more? Does his slight weight gain sorta turn me off some what? You have all the answers inside of you to these questions. People really don't know someone until they spend alot of time together. Either they grow together or apart. Communicate with him, share how you feel, have a serious deep discussion because both of you should be honest with one another. See saw relationships can drain both people. If you're feelings for him is changing in the wrong way, don't hold him hostage, cause that would be selfish on your part. Either the both of you make this relationship work, or spend time apart too sort out what is best for yourself and him. A man doesn't have to be physically attractive, it's about him treating you like a lady, caring about you, respecting you. Instead of making excuses not to be with him; if you really care about him get some videos or go on youtube and spend quality time with him exercising, physically and sexually, sweating alot make the bathroom into a steam room this would only take 20 to 30 minutes a day or every other day. Just giving you some suggestions, cause I really like to see couples that are good for one another stay together. Take Care