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Boyfriend left me, but won't leave me alone

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My ex and I were in a long distance relationship for an entire year until things went sour. After a year and a few months he called it off due to arguments and stress, I agreeded because it felt like we were drifting. We spent some time arguing and grieving over the breakup until we began speaking normally again. We then decided that we should see each other to discuss our relationship. I traveled to him, he acted normal at first he couldn't stop staring and touching, only later in the trip I found out that he was talking to other women, he told me they meant nothing and that it was just a way to make himself feel better. When I tried discussing the relationship he avoided the conversations completely. When I got back home I spent little time contacting him but would often call him upset or crying about the other women.I eventually told him I didn't want to speak to him and ignored all of his messages. I ignored him for only a week and he messaged or called everyday at least once. After a week he called me frantically one night and when I picked up he yelled at me for ignoring him and begged to be friends. When I told him it was a bad idea because previous feelings may get in the way he agreed and said he would feel the same. (Basically hinting he might want me back). When I agreed to try and be friends he told me he was coming down with his friends for a weekend. He told me he wanted to take me out and even messaged my friend to find out my favorite restaurants. But, he ignores my calls, takes forever to call back and doesn't really spend time trying to be "friends". He avoids talking about our relationship and has left me utterly confused. I don't know what he wants and I do not want to be let down again. I just want to know if anyone has been in a similar situation or understands him more than I do.

Boyfriend left me, but won't leave me alone

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I have been in a similar situation myself for about 5 months. My best advice to you would be to let it go. Maybe even change your number if you need to. It sounds like head games.. He doesn't want to be with you but wants to keep his options open just incase, and just incase is not good enough, you deserve better my dear. As for the talking to other woman.. That is an excuse, again, keeping his options open. I know it sounds harsh but in all reality ask yourself this. "Do I want to hold on to something not worthy of my time?" (Even if he uses the 'friends' excuse thats exactly what it is.. An excuse. Go and fond someone who is willing to make it work and not play these head games because honey, YOU deserve better!

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