Hi,lrealy would like some advice,this is my second marriage to a man who always thinks he is right who never says SORRY.we are both smokers l do not like smoking in the house so l go outside,but my husband will not do this,so we came to a comprimise that he only smoked in our conservitory,but a couple of weeks ago my grandson came to stay over,he is only a year old my husband continude to smoke around him even though it was a hot day l got quite upset and asked him not to smoke infront of him he got angry and said it was his house and he could smoke anywere and said that if l did not like it then the grandson could not come anymore.at this point l was angry and very upsett and told him that that would never happen l love my grandson dearly and would never want to stop him comming to see me.at that point my husband walked out.that was over three weeks ago.he did not contact me,then yesterday i contacted him asking if we could talk which we did but he is still aderment l suggested he go in the kitchen with the fan on,but no that is not good enough he says l am taking his rights away from him and am being very unreasonable please give me your veiws as i feel so confused am l being unreasonable.
His rights end when other people's health is concerned. The baby's health should be #1.
He's feeling put out in his own home. Create a spot in the home just for him - a man cave - where he can smoke. Some people re-do the garage area.
Hi thanks for your input.have suggested the garage,even said why not make a smoking area outside on the patio with a heater,but NO what i cannot understand is that l do not complaine at other times,so why say just for the few hours say about once a month he cannot put himself out when my grandson comes.he smokes roll up,and i even brought him one of these electric liquid cigeretts which he did use at first if he wanted to smoke in the lounge,when asked him if he could use that when grandson was around he said No
This isn't about smoking - it's about control in his own house.
Take the baby away (park or someone's house) or meet your relatives outside your home if he continues to dig in about this.
Sorry to inconvenience you and the baby, but you are married to a stubborn, self centered jerk.
Is he like this in other areas of your marriage?
Hi,SUSIEDQ thanks for your input into my situation, yes he is a control freek and a jerk l have just posted another topic called unloved that will tell you of another problem,i must say that my mind is going DEVORCE.l would like to hear your imput on unloved,thanks hudson
What about the babies rights to have clean air to breath and a healthy future? Your husband sounds like and incredibly selfish individual and not too bright as well.
The grandson staying away would be for the best. Maybe you can go see him at his parents house.
There is no excuse for damaging the health of a baby who is too young to protect himself or get away from dangerous second hand smoke.
Hi COLDSNOWBUNNY l agree with you.he is a selfish man,l do not want to be with him anymore,after 9 years of this controling selfish man l have had enough he forced me to choose between him smoking infront of the little one or him moving out l chose my grandson,