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My ex bf was player and why do I feel so hurt?

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So, me and my ex broke up a month ago and I was the one who dumped him because he didn't really care. So, after I broke up with him I found out he was a player and he was just using me because he wants to open a pickup company in the future. So, his feelings for me were never real. He fooled me. I feel so hurt and dumb that I can't even eat food properly. I feel so sick. Also he was my first bf I ever had. He was 21 and I am 18. I don't know what to do. He manipulated me a lot. After I found out I texted him how fake he was and how he played with my feelings. Also, I felt bad after sending that text. It might have hurt him. But, I feel a lot worse. I know people will say just over it but it's not easy. Even if I try to keep myself busy the whole day at night the thoughts always come running to my mind how he played with my feelings and I can't stop crying. What should I do? Sometimes I think that I should take a solid revenge on him. But, it's just that I can't. I hate to hurt people. What should I do I feel so hurt?

My ex bf was player and why do I feel so hurt?

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Hi hon, I have been in your situation. I broke up with someone not because I stopped loving them but because I felt like they didn't care about me. It basically feels the same as getting dumped because you didn't want the relationship to end, you just thought they did. And it's very traumatizing. I want to tell you that it's totally normal for you to feel hurt. Breakups feel like physical pain that you have to endure every minute of every day. Here is the good news: #1 You've already gotten through a month. This means that things are going to start getting better soon. The ONLY thing that heals a broken heart is time, and you have already put in some time. That means that you are already closer to feeling better, even if you don't feel better yet. #2. Even though getting played and used SUCKS, in the long run it will make getting over him easier. If he was a really great guy who used to love you a lot and then just stopped, that would be agonizing. 5 Years down the line you might still long for him and your relationship. But 5 years down the line you will NEVER regret losing out on a guy who used you and lied to you! Once your sadness subsides you'll be able to be relieved that you got out when you did!

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