Then there's the other girl: my best friend in school, who I've known for about a year less than my girlfriend, but I'm very close to. I've developed a weirdly intense crush on her in the past few months, and now I'm fantasising about her daily. Our communication outside of school has become much more regular, and it's obvious we've gotten a lot closer. A few of our friends say we'd be a great couple, and while we joke about it occasionally it makes me feel weird because I know that I actually like her in that way. I don't know if I can imagine myself in a relationship with her, though, and I'm pretty sure she doesn't like me in that way - although I don't know how to tell, since she's quite private about crushes and stuff like that, even on celebrities! I know she's bisexual, but that doesn't really make much of a difference. I love her, but I don't know where it's meant to go from here.
I don't know how much longer I can deal with this. I can either stay with my girlfriend until it falls apart and I have a breakdown, I can tell my friend my feelings and get rejected therefore losing my best friend and feeling guilty, or just break up with my girlfriend and give up on both of them. I hate this so much.
You can still be friends, though. Perhaps your best friend is feeling the same as you and would feel relieved if you too a break in the intensity of your friendship. Try not to be so dependent on her, too.
Re: the new "crush". This is an unknown and who knows where it will go. But - again - try not to be so intense! Start slow and let things develop. Being needy is a turnoff in most relationships.
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