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He says im not interested... which is not the case

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So my hubs had a really tough day in the oilfield today. We both work 12 hour days, I'm an HR professional and he's a driller.and typically our sex life is pretty good, about 4 times a week. He's been under the weather all week with a low grade temp and exhausted but wouldn't call in this week. When he gets home, he's exhausted and obviously ill. Well because he had an extraordinarily rough day today I was hopping around getting what ever he needed and catering to him a little. He mentioned a blow job, I popped off that he would definitely need a shower first...then he said "Nevermind, I'm not in the mood anyway.' Which I totally believed bc he's been so sick. Well as we are getting in to bed for the night he said, "man I must be in a dead zone." I asked what he meant and he said "a sex dead zone, you haven't been interested all week." I said, "you're kidding right, you've been sick all week. I would have guess you were interested in sex right now. I know its the last thunk I care about when I'm tired and sick." He said oh, well I know you just arenot attracted to me anymore." I was getting a little hurt, I said quit telling me what I think, I love you. However I can't read your mind if you want some you need to let someone know, not blame it on me bc I didnt think a person with a possible virus would want to get it on." He then said I was the one griping and that if I didn't want to have sex to just say so. He said why do you think I was snuggling you last night? I said oh I just though you wanted to snuggle, he said no I was trying to get laid. I said well you didnt act like it. So he laid down and I trued to get close to him and he said, no thanks I know you don't want to. So I gave up a got up to take the dogs outside to potty. I came back to bed and he's snoring like a hibernating bearand basically in an exhaustive coma ...and I'm sitting with my feelings hurt. This isnt the first time this type of convo has happened. So as much as is like to blame on the sickness, I can't. I think he thinks sex is the cure all ( I kno the endorphins feel good), but seriously if you have a fever we really shouldnt Fuck. But I'm left with this crap feeling and he's snoring. I don't fucking get it...its an asshole thing for him to do.he has made any sort of effort to show me he wanted some booty this week, and I didn't worry because he was sic, but then he turns around and tells ME I denied him all week. Esp when I was trying extra hard to let him know I care and love him. Feeling like a I really want to show him bitch mode. So frustrating.

He says im not interested... which is not the case

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He's acting like a spoiled child who doesn't know what he wants. Teach him how to communicate. Tell him that he needs to say, "I'm feeling romantic (horney, etc) tonight. Let's go to bed early.' - or something like that. He's being very passive-aggressive with you. Blamining you for his frustrations and push/pulling with this actions. Tell him to grow up and learn how to make you respond to his VERY CLEAR signals.

He says im not interested... which is not the case

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First of all, hey, if you're having sex 4 times a week working 12 hour days at exhausting jobs, I tip my hat to you!! You did not deny him a blow job. All you said was that he needed to shower first, which is quite reasonable, considering he had a long day of physical labor. When he said, "Nevermind, I wasn't in the mood," you thought, "OK, he's not in the mood." That's that! Well, then he says it's YOU who's not in the mood and "why don't you just tell me you're not in the mood," when he is the one who said he wasn't in the mood when he was? Wow. I'm sure he's a great guy, but seems a bit ungrateful for your love and devotion and can't take the blame for squat. It sounds like it's all about sex for him. I hope I'm wrong. Anyway, you sound like a great woman, and he's lucky to have you. You did absolutely NOTHING wrong.

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