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Hello, Any advice anybody can give me on my situation would be appreciated. I have been in a relationship for a few months with a guy 3 years older, we met online and hit it off instantly. We both agreed that it felt fantastic to meet someone who ticked all the boxes. We kept in touch daily by text, calls and met up for dates once/twice a week. Things then moved quickly as he had a few social events at weekends, which he took me to. This meant within a few weeks, I had met his family, friends and we became very close. He had been single on and off for 3 years, following a split from his ex wife who he had been with over 15 years (childhood sweethearts) and has 2 children with, she left him for another man and is still with the guy now. He has found it very hard to deal with because he had married his first love, had an amazing marriage/life and two children made in love. He had a fun buddy for a few months, played the field and dated a girl for a few months, but said he didn't love her and she loved him so they split. Then he met me, who he fell in love with very quickly, which was a big deal for him as he didn't think he would fall in love again (his words) we discussed the future, I started staying a lot at his, became more involved with the children when he had them and spent quality family time all together during the holidays. He would say he loves coming home from work to me, loved the small things like food shopping and cooking together and generally chilling out spending time with me. Every now and then he says that in a perfect world, he would have his family unit back, he doesn't love the ex wife, but misses what they had and being involved in the childrens lives everyday. That I understand as he is a doting father and he was with his ex for such a long time. However, after an amazing 2 weeks of living with him and spending time as a family with the children, going to the park, picnics, days out etc, 2 days before they were due to go back to their mums he ended things with me. He said he loves me, but thinks more as a friend than a partner, he thinks I am amazing, he fancies me and highly attracted to me, has loved all of our time together and thinks we would have a great future. However, he feels like something is missing and can't put his finger on it, wishes he could and is gutted for us. We did discuss the "something missing" and it is partly to do with him not being with his children every day, because he wants his family unit so much, no matter how happy with me, he hasn't fully accepted his past has gone. What I struggle to understand and need advice on, is how over the past few weeks, he said about saving for our own place to rent, a car and infront of his children, said this time next year the four of us would go on a family holiday abroad. There was no difference in his behaviour towards me (he didn't get cold or argumentative) but literally overnight, just a few days before the children were due to go back home and him see them once a week, he said to me he feels like he loves me in a different way, a friend more than a partner. How does someone fall so head over heels that they tell you that you are marriage material, they are proud to be with you and never thought they could love like this again and then it just change after having amazing times together? If he was no longer attracted to me, I could understand liking me as a friend, or even if we wanted different futures it would make sense, but for everything to go so well and him be the one talking about the future, it just makes it harder to digest how his love has changed. Thanks for reading, appreciate you taking the time and hope to get some advice

Relationship advice - male behaviour / feelings confusing me

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Wow - you two moved VERY fast!! A "few months" and you are already so involved with his kids? So now he has put the brakes on and is really thinking about all this. Really - he owes you a better explanation. This putting you into the "friend zone" after all that intensity is really unfair. I also don't think the explanation about the kids is really the issue, either. Step back, give him some space and make him miss you. That's about all you can do. If things were as you say, he will miss YOU and try to put things back together again. But - I don't think he has been honest - something else is up.

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My husband has abandon me and the kids for the the past 8months now, and refuse to come back because he was hold on by a woman whom he just met, for that, my self and the kids has been suffering and it has been heel of a struggle, but i decide to do all means to make sure that my family come together as it use to, then i went online there i saw so many good talk about this the priestess Munak's spell powers, so i had to contact the priestess through the website, http://thespellpriestessmunak.webs.com and in just 2 days as she has promised, my husband came home and his behaviour was back to the man i got married to, just as priestess has told me earlier. Thanks to the great priestess Munak, email is [e-mail address removed]. I would be glad to share experience tho. email me at [e-mail address removed], Thanks.

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Sorry to hear about your heartache. Let me say this first. He is selfish and his mind is with you but his heart is elsewhere. Sounds to me he is determined to get not only his kids back but his wife to. Don't you dare sit and wait on a man who is not secure in his relationship. Sometimes people think the grass is greener on the other side until the miss cutting there old grass. I believe he really cares for you and you are a great substitute for now. I also believe he has love for you but not in love with you. A man can not start a future until he is clear of his past. Age plays a lot into maturity of true love. Understanding from experience is vital. I'm not sure of his or your age but maybe to young to really understand what soul mates really means. It means no conditions and 100% commitment of everything forever. Believe only what you see not just what you feel. You are worth more than waiting for a man to choose. Life is so short all we have is today. Raise your head up high and move forward

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It sounds like the situation moved very fast forward. It is probably best to not include the kids until there is a sound relationship between you and the man first. I am not sure what he wants, but it seems like he has changed his mind about the relationship between you and him. I would suggest that you deserve someone who knows themselves and what they want better than this man. You deserve a man who is a little more personally stable and responsible, both as a partner and father. I would suggest move on, and know how he responds to you is more about him, and not about you. It's not personal, he just doesn't know any better.

Relationship advice - male behaviour / feelings confusing me

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It sounds like the situation moved very fast forward. It is probably best to not include the kids until there is a sound relationship between you and the man first. I am not sure what he wants, but it seems like he has changed his mind about the relationship between you and him. I would suggest that you deserve someone who knows themselves and what they want better than this man. You deserve a man who is a little more personally stable and responsible, both as a partner and father. I would suggest move on, and know how he responds to you is more about him, and not about you. It\'s not personal, he just doesn\'t know any better.

Relationship advice - male behaviour / feelings confusing me

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It sounds like the situation moved very fast forward. It is probably best to not include the kids until there is a sound relationship between you and the man first. I am not sure what he wants, but it seems like he has changed his mind about the relationship between you and him. I would suggest that you deserve someone who knows themselves and what they want better than this man. You deserve a man who is a little more personally stable and responsible, both as a partner and father. I would suggest move on, and know how he responds to you is more about him, and not about you. It\\\'s not personal, he just doesn\\\'t know any better.

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