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I'm not sure what to do, but I feel I should move on

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Relationship advice I've being seeing this guy for two and half months. We hang out once a week we talk a few times during the week. We have not been intimate. I decided that I like this guy meaning I decided I think we should be exclusive ( dating now is complicated) and I asked him if he were dating other people and he said yes ? I really feel like him and I feel as if we have been dating and he's been dating other then he must not like me ? He told me he does and then stated I thought we agreed to take things slow . He said it's to soon to make a decision but I stated to him if you like me so much like you claim then what's wrong with seeing just me?? Anyways after he told me I feel like I'm totally uninterested and I feel like if we've been dating this long and he's still seeing others why would he all of a sudden commit to me in the future ? Also when we first started dating I informed him I don't do casual sex and I wanted something more than casual dates as well. Thoughts ??

I'm not sure what to do, but I feel I should move on

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Move on Chloe, this guy doesn't know what he wants and while you keep hanging around him, then you are enabling him to manipulate you and the whole situation.

It's obvious that he views your relationship with him different to what your expectations are. If he really doesn't want to get involved with you, whatever excuses he uses, then you can't make him.

Find someone who wants and needs to be you and someone who doesn't use excuses to string you along.

I'm not sure what to do, but I feel I should move on

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You don't say how old you are, but young men are generally too immature for an exclusive relationship.

Maybe you should date others, too.

Why are you against casual dating/

I'm not sure what to do, but I feel I should move on

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To answer your question m 25 and so is he. I don't really do casual dating because people don't want to date individuals like myself when I let them know I'm not into casually having sex without being in a relationship. Being safe is extremely important to me and while I can't guarantee it I can do all I can to prevent certain situations.

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Hi Chloe,

First, I'd like to commend you for wanting to wait to be in a monogamous relationship first before you have sex. Don't lower your standards my dear.

Second, it sounds like he is keeping his options open. Since, it's only been 2.5 months, I'd recommend to continue to date him as well as dating other men. Within 3-6 month time frame you should know where you stand with any man.

Have fun! You are young with a bright future ahead of you! Don't settle for someone that is keeping you as an option. Keep your options open and you will eventually meet someone that is interested in a monogamous relationship. You will find men that won't expect sex. They are out there.

Good Luck! Email me if you have any questions.
-A Stunning ME, Life Coach
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I'm not sure what to do, but I feel I should move on

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Hanging out once a week and talking a few times per week would not be considered enough to be called "exclusive"

I appreciate your standards that you don't sleep with guys casually and that you need more of a commitment before you will enter into a sexual relationship.

But there are many more steps for what you had with this fellow before being considered exclusive. He just didn't seem like he wanted to develop the relationship any further.

This thread has expired - why not start your own?

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