Not sure what to do
So for the past few months my wife has been very distant and our relationship has seemed very strained. I brought this up to her awhile ago and my wife blamed it on the stress from school and work, though she also said she wasn't sure she was in love any longer. We worked on things and we seemed back on track.
Fast forward to a week ago. Seemed to be the same issues. We have only been married for a year and a half. I'm 24 and she's 22. She was very distant and never seemed to want to be around me so I asked her if she would be happier if we were divorced. She said she didn't know. I asked her if she was still in love with me and again she said she didn't know.
I asked what it is she wanted me to do to fix things and again she didn't know so she said she would stay at her mom's for a week to give us time to think things through. She text me during the first night complaining that she didn't like sleeping alone so her week stay only lasted one night. She still has no answers but wants me to act like nothing is going on. We haven't had sex in around 2 months, which she blames on it hurting when we do it. I've tried different things to try to help but I'm not sure what else to do at this point.
She doesn't like to talk through things and I'm not sure what to do at this point. I told her that I didn't want to live life with a wife who was more of a roommate that just shared bills more than anything. She has told me that because she doesn't like sex she has trouble being attracted to me so it's hard to see me as more than just a really good friend.
What should I do? Should I wait and HOPE she figures stuff out or do I leave?
She needs a physical exam - with a gynecologist. You go with her. Sit down with the Dr. FIRST and tell him what's going on.
Insist on this. Something is very wrong here.
Sorry to hear your predicament mate!
This is a very common theme though. You are not alone in this.
She's just being a typical modern woman of the western world. There's not really a damn thing u can do about it. I wouldn't even try and figure out whats happening, the reasons could be many and varied. You love her, so I guess you have no option but to stick it out, it could last weeks - or forever, until your relationship inevitably eventually fails. Just treat her right, hope for the best and be a decent partner, but.......be a man. It's gonna course a lot of friction as she's started with the denying/withholding sex routine already.....don't know if u have kids with her or not, this normally starts anytime after you have your own kids together...........anyhow, all I can say is if she doesn't want you, it's hard, but the best thing to do is cut contact, move on.....concentrate on training and looking after yourself......she'll probably end up wanting you back at some point if u just crack on, if that time comes......it's up to you how u feel
Don't start spouting crap on here about the temptation of an affair etc, be a man, if you feel that way- end it yourself!
Sorry man, Good luck
Sorry to interject/hi-jack for a mo, but..
Crikey, Bad Advice, where ARE all these modern, western-world women that typically don't like sex nor, more to my interest, exploring, articulating and talking about their feelings to the Nth degree and/or until I go Blue in the face, whichever is soonest (and can *I* have one for a bessie mate or are you keeping both of them at your house)?
PS: You'll haffter catch me foist, sunshine. ;-)
Enjoying sex and withholding sex to a long term partner are 2 different things bro :)
They're not, actually. Think about it: if you're well into sex you wouldn't want to waste it using it as a weapon when there are plenty of other weapons of choice.
I've known both personally and anecdotally of quite a few men who've withheld sex as a weapon. So the point I was trying to make is, it's not a gender issue. It's one of under-assertive, over-sensitive little flower type meets confident, assertive, possibly even (comparitively speaking) over-dominant, insensitive type, combined with mental laziness/unimaginitiveness on the part of the little flower as has them reaching for the most convenient stick to self-defend or attack with. Namely, something that they know means a lot to you.
In a nutshell, it's passive-aggressive.
PS: "Bro"?? Who - moi???
Here...these two typical western world women that you're keeping at your house. They didn't happen to have peculiarly hairy chests, did they? Or is changing the lightbulb in the basement still on your To-Do list? ;-D