Just a fling?
So I've just got back from a little trip to Africa. After my placement I took some time out on an amazing beach for a week. The group I was with- some old friends, some newly acquainted- started talking to these two guys who were also out there on some work but were enjoying a month in this paradise.
Initially I was weary of this guy, but I slowly warmed to him and we'd have drunk conversations where he'd express his love for me (more friend love than anything else). He was on a rebound, and I too had been through a lot with a certain guy the past year. So one night we begin talking again and he tells me about his ex and how distraught he was and I tell him my situation. We really bonded that night. The next two days we spent together in the presence of his two friends. But I realised that I had fallen for him. The thing is I don't whether he feels the same. Or maybe this is just initial attraction and I'll soon get over it? But I really do feel like I would like something more from this, but how? Can anyone analyse this situation and help me get my head straight ;/ Thanks
because yous went through a similar situation, your only taking a liking to him because yous both felt the same with your previous relationship.
I wouldn't play on too much emotion with this guy, sounds like he really liked the girl that hes not ready to jump into a relationship just yet; even if he does end up dating you i dont think he'll invest too much into the relationship.
Because you want to have something more than friendship with this guy, I feel it's best to remain friends & wait till he realises & comes to you.
I would advise you to tell him how you feel, but i strongly feel he'll just tell you he's still hung up on the last girl & just needs to get himself together. Cause he doesnt want to be in a relationship & still thinking of the other person.
It's entirely up to you but i hope all goes well for you with whatever decision you make
It's most likely just a crush. Even if you feel particularly attracted to this person, you really don't know him well enough to seriously think about going into a long-term romantic relationship with him. Even if you did start a relationship with this guy, it would a doomed relationship from the start given how little you two actually know about each other.
I'd say let some time pass. Maybe a week or two and see if you still feel the same way about him. You're most likely to just forget all about him.