Signs of violence
I was in a violent relationship once. I dated this guy for 4 years. 3 years he never once showed any physical violence, but at the 4th year he did. During the 3 years we were dating he would get really aggressive (verbally, or with other things around him) when he would get angry. He would cuss/yell or treat me like he didn't care. He also would hit stuff. I always felt scared when he got mad. 4th year is when he started, throwing me, choking me, throwing things at me, grabbing me, etc. His verbal aggressiveness got worse too. He would call me names and say very hurtful things. I felt so small. anyway, it's been over for years but I've been scarred..
I am now dating someone I truly love. We dated for a year, 3 years ago, broke up for a year, and are now back to together. It is almost a year now, and we are talking about getting married. But I'm scared. When he gets mad.
He makes me feel like dirt when he's angry. He cusses and has called me names. He also gets aggressive with things around him. We got into another fight today and he cussed at me again. I have asked him not to, but when he is mad he doesn't seem to care about the consequences anymore. The worse part is when I tell him how it makes me feel he makes it seem like I deserved it. Thinking about the future with him now scares me. I don't know how else to... make him see this. Is there no hope anymore? Am i being ridiculous like he claims I'm doing? Or are these signs I should be looking at..?
I am having second thoughts about getting married to him.. and I believe he is feeling the same way too.
Unfortunately when someone acts that way towards you..what more can you expect from this person??? As harsh as i may sound... before anything else happens i say leave the relationship. You dont need anyone to verbabally mistreat you. You deserve respect and he doesnt give it to you. No matter how mad he gets their is other ways of letting his anger out.... but to mistreat you and call you names? Its so wrong and by you staying you are basically saying "its ok for you to mistreat me because i will continue to stay" im sorry but yoy should find a way out and find someone who respects you and treats his woman with respect. Best of luck
Thank god you are not MARRIED yet.
He will beat any wife he has, AND terroize of beat any children that come along.
He has all the signs of an abuser - including the BIG one of blaming the victim and making the victim think it's all her/his fault.
Just google "signs of an abuser" and you will get more than enough info to ID him as a full blown raging abuser.