It sounds like as a photographer he knows landscapes are a bit boring without a person in them. I do that. And I wouldn't want someone overweight and out of shape ruining the scene, either. It would defeat the object of scene enhancement as well as take too much focus away from the scene itself.
Yep, it sounds to me like you're misinterpreting. Or picking on then trying to shoehorn the wrong evidence to explain pre-existing feelings.
How were you feeling BEFORE you found this photo? Have you found yourself disappointed at the romantic reality of he and you on this long-awaited holiday compared to what you'd long dreamt up? Are you background-hoping a fight will lead to make-up sex?
We have been having some problems in the past year or so and there has been some tension between us on this trip. This has nothing to do with make up sex. He has, in our past, done some insensitive things relating to other women; including a request to a prostitute for a threesome on our honeymoon, and soon after our return, going back to another woman's flat, with me in tow because I felt threatened, I suppose, (he was quite happy to let me go home alone on this occasion). To my knowledge he has never been intimate with another woman however.
These moments seem to happen when he has been drinking, which, I believe, is another problem of his. He has a high libido and I have often felt he is obsessed with sex, which, I suppose, adds to my concerns.
Me? I guess I'm pretty insecure, though am reasonably attractive, all things considered. I guess these kind of behaviours doesn't help... My libido is flailing since having our third child, who has an intellectual and physical disability. I understand I may not be satisfying him, but a part of me feels he is too demanding, and, as already stated, insensitive.
I will try to be open minded, given your response. It's good to have a neutral perspective on this and I hope you're right
But please, could I get one or two other (brief & honest) perspectives?
Quite right, too.
"including a request to a prostitute for a threesome on our honeymoon"
That, missus, (assuming he was serious) is not just 'insensitive'. PFF, DO WHAT?! Me, I'd have interrogated him (to make sure), and (if so) annulled the marriage on the spot!
Why didn't you?
"To my knowledge he has never been intimate with another woman however."
TO MY KNOWLEDGE, noted. You're not quite certain about your knowledge, are you - leopards and spots considered.
"These moments seem to happen when he has been drinking, which, I believe, is another problem of his. He has a high libido and I have often felt he is obsessed with sex, which, I suppose, adds to my concerns."
Define 'obsessed', please? And define 'drinking' (how many, how often)? A naturally high libido doesn't usually need alcohol to bring it out. However, alcohol can bring a long-held issue to the the fore as causes expressivity in a certain manner, this case, sex-obsessiveness.
How often (times per week) does he want to have sex (excluding when under the influence) and how often do you?
Are you insecure per se or does he render you insecure?
Was it that he was more or less suitable/manageable enough when you were kid-free, but that now your kid is through no fault of his or yours, very high maintenance, this man has proven himself incapable of stepping up to the challenge?
PS: " I can see this problem is not so serious as others "
Yeeeeah - nice try.
Discussion closed - why not create your own thread?