When your boyfriend has an ex as a bestfriend..
My boyfriend and i have been together about three years. He has several best friends but some of them are girls. Not that he talks to them all the time but when he does it gives me knots in my stomach. Currently or for awhile i should say he's been talking to an ex that he calls one of his best friends. for me being a girl i get jealous and uncomfortable. isnt that normal? we get into alot of heated fights because of how i feel and its making us go down hill. i want to stay with him and be happy but how do i deal with feeling down about certain things? Ive been trying to better myself so will get along better and be happier but something always seems to get in the way. i feel stuck and depressed because of how ive treated him and the situation. He's an amazing guy and he doesnt deserve to be treated like crap. do you think i could ever make him happy after all the crap ive put him through? id really love some advice.
There's nothing wrong with talking to ex's as long as it's done properly. You get jealous and uncomfortable, which means you're insecure. This is why you fight and this is why you feel depressed.
After 3 years you should trust him and know him. If he's an amazing guy and you want to be happy and stay with him, then you have to accept all of him just the way he is. If he shares everything with you and his best friends respect your relationship with him then there shouldn't be a problem.
CALMLY tell him that him talking to girls in front of you makes you uncomfortable and he needs to stop it. This is the STANDARD that you have set and he needs to honor it.
Be prepared to follow up on consequences if he continues to do that. Are you strong enough to do that?
It sounds like you two have a volatile relationship. Do you love this chaos?