A couple months now one of his friends, whom I've known as long as I've been with my boyfriend, started texting me. Now a little history: a few months into my relationship before we got serious, I had a fling with this same guy. Let's call him Dave and let's call my boyfriend Mark. I had a month long fling with Dave and we slept together a couple times. He wanted a relationship but I felt bad To break up with Mark especially since we started getting serious then. So I ended it with Dave.
He eventually found a girlfriend and for three years while he was wih her I saw him only a handful of times. They broke up a while ago and he started texting me saying he missed my kisses. We've had many LONG conversations via texts and he says he wants me. he said he misses all that we had and wants it again. A month ago or so I was out and still distant with mark so he left me at the bar with Dave. We had some drinks and I ended up leaving with him. We had sex in his vehicle that night. He texts me everyday saying he wants to see me but I feel guilty for what we did but I still want to see him.
He is a really nice guy and the opposite of Mark. Mark doesn't like to communicate with me and I have to twist his arm to get him to talk about our relationship. Dave is always saying that communication is important and he is not afraid to open up to me. Anything I ask him he talks to me. And of course the money. We are in a tight budget mark and I but Dave has a lot of money. I jus think that we would be able to go out more and not quarrel so much if Mark and I had more cash.
On the other hand, Mark has agreed to give me a baby as that is something I want. I thought I was pregnant a month ago and he was disappointed when I got a negative result. Dave now, he doesn't want any kids right now. Since I am 32 already, I want a kid soon. Within the next year. So in that aspect, I don't see how I would be happy with Dave for very long. but I think again and if I am not that happy with Mark now, how will things be with a baby on top of it?
I am really confused and need some advice. I love Mark but don't know if I am still in love with him. I like Dave but don't know if we have anything real there that will last the honeymoon period.
I am in the middle and not sure which way to turn. My feelings for Mark are declining while my feelings for Dave are getting stronger. I remember Dave saying he didn't spend his bday with anyone and wanted to hangout with me. (Which was last week) but my boyfriend always wants a big party for his bday and forgets me. One thing me and Dave has in common is that he says he knows a lot of people but he considers them aquaintances and not friends, which is how I think. Mark on the other hand says he has many friends but I dont. I tell him they aren't his friends because when he needs them, they aren't there. They only want him when he can do something for them. So he gets angry and tells me I have no friends.
I was thinking of hanging out with Dave to talk and see how I feel when I am with him. Any advice? Thanks.
One guy is a bad-boy jerk and the other you don't know that much about - but at least he pays attention to you and you seem to have the same value system.
You are going to have to sort this out - but don't think having a baby is going to make things better. It is selfish of you to think it will.
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