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Miss over emotional and mister neutral?

- Oct 6 2014 at 23:13
Member since: 06 October 2014
Relationship advice Hello out there. I've never done anything like this before, and I'm not sure how to go about it. But here goes...

First off a bit of backround info. I'm a female. And I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 6months. I don't want to use his real name, so I'll just say "K" to make it easier for me. I love K. And he says he loves me. And we're happy... 95% of the time.

I can be a bit sensitive and emotional. Or maybe a lot sensitive. I've suffered with low self esteem caused by a previous relationship a while ago. And can get touchy or over react. "K" is pretty much the exact opposite. He claims to be (and acts) neutral with most things. He's not very colorful and is pretty straightforward. And normally I'm totally okay with that, it's refreshing.

But sometimes I feel like he can be a bit insensitive. I know he doesn't mean to hurt my feelings or make me feel down. But he does on occasion. And when I try to explain how I feel, I tend to get overly emotional about it and overreact. Which then gets him annoyed. And then we end up not talking for a couple hours.

I don't know what to do to stop this from happening. Or how to go about it differently when he says/does something that bothers me. Help?

Miss over emotional and mister neutral?

- Oct 7 2014 at 00:04
Member since: 29 December 2013
Are you being fair to both of you by being well and truly over your previous relationship? If you are still sensitive about it, then you are basiclly struggling with yourself and your emotional state is causing issues when you try to do the right thing in your current relationship.

Your bf should be assisting you to build your confidence levels again but if he is the neutral type then you can't really expect him to be able to help you apart from just being there with you. You need a strong man who will put himself in the position of offering stabilty and support. His communication skills and his ability to 'listen', and thus care for you, will be his greatest assets to you.

Ask yourself if this is the case and be honest with yourself about your previous relationship.

Miss over emotional and mister neutral?

- Oct 7 2014 at 00:12
Member since: 02 October 2014
I understand its very frustrating to be with a guy who are insensitive,the same with my guy. Weve been together for 2 years in which there were lots of fights due to his insensitivity and me being over emotional sometimes.

I guess the best thing to do when you wanna talk to him about your feeling is, just tell him in the most simple way,direct and straightforward,without making him feel like hes being attacked or blamed.You can vent all the details to your female friends . And when you feel like you cant control the conversation,like when you start crying or starts to over react,just pause for awhile,you can continue when you starts to feel normal again.You mentioned yourself that he doesnt mean to hurt you but unless you learn to communicate with him in a way that he understands, the hurt and feeling let down will always be there.

Hope it helps.good luck.

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