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hi iwanna know if my bf don't buy anything for my birthday does he loves me or should ileave him evn last year he did not bought anything for me in my born day

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Ive been through the same thing and it sucks.If he shows his love in some other way,you should just accept it.If hes the kinda guy who is not comfortable with exchanging gifts and stuffs, he may never change.Most guys dont really care about special days,if hes there for you when you need him,thats more important....cheer up, you dont have to worry.

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i don't mean to be blunt but is it that much of a bigger deal to feel loved by expecting a present from him? he shouldnt have to prove to you that he loves you by buying you a birthday present... some guys have their own way of showing love, if you want a birthday present then tell him he cant read your mind and if its that much of a bigger deal then let him know.

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iknow but y ifeel this way im heart broken ijast dont wanna talk to him

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I understand the pain but there nothing much you can do if he doesnt want to give you.Count the other good things he has done for you. Whenever i think about birthdays, valentine days or anniversaries, i still feel hurt a little bit but I know he loves me and itsworth it.Boys will be boys. Talk to him.Its the best suggestion i can give.

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ok tanx iwill do so

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Some guys need hints - in-your-face hints about birthdays, Valentines, etc. So a few days before your day, begin to talk about it. Say: "Sat. is my birthday, want to do something special?" or "Know what I'd like for may birthday? That little ______ at the store would make me happy." I know people say to "get over" this forgetfulness, but it does hurt. You just have to look at the reason he can remember your special day. Is he really that dense? Passive aggressive? selfish? distracted? not celebrated in his family? Most of all, what does HE expect on HIS birthday? It's not too late. Tell him, "Since you forgot my birthday, you can get me that ____________ I've always wanted."

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idid tell him iwant a present and he said ok bt when i asked him today he did not answer me ijast want to go my ways

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It's got to be more than just forgetting your birthday. What else is going on in this relationship that this is a deal breaker (forgetting your birthday?) Is this just ONE more thing he does that makes you feel like he doesn't care/

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I must admit I would be upset if a partner didn't give me anything for my birthday. Really cheesed off. Do you get him presents for his birthday? I think you should bite the bullet and explain to him that it means a lot to you. Explain that it's not about expense but about thoughtfulness and care. Does he do anything else on your birthday? Take you out somewhere, or breakfast in bed,, or anything at all to distinguish it as a special day for you? Also - what is he like about his own birthday? Does he celebrate it or just let it pass by?

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yes Susie thers more he jast don't wanna take me out its either his buzy or he will say he don't have cash iknow his not cheating on me but he does not want to do something for me and as far ican see he does care about going out and even his birthday its like an ordinary day for him idid try an leave him but he don't want to and far ican see he loves me but someday iwill leave him bcs of that iwant to be taken out and have some fun with my bf

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Sounds even more like my guy.I can understand why ur questioning his love for you. Weve been together two years but everytime when special day comes, theres always a fight.Ive told him so many times that i dont want any expensive gifts,just a quality time with him or doing something diffrent from our usual normal day wud mean alot to me but he never fulfill my expectation regarding dis.Ive suggested so many times that wed go out for a movie but that too,still pending.Its not thaat he doesnt like to go out,hes an extrovert and always excited to meet his friends. But never seems excited to do something fun with me..always seems more like hes doing it so that i will not be upset. But,at the same time,he loves to cook for me, takes good care of me when im sick, always make sure when i go out alone, never say no when i need help, takes day off from work just to help me, text me everyday from work, alwaays apologize after a fight,put up with my temper so many times,spend time with me at home at the weekend even if his friends are having aa party,share his fav tee (lol) des r the few points which i can think of for now.. Wich makes me stay after every fight. I GUESS YOU SHOULD DO THE SAME. If you still have doubts after that..then maybe u should find some other guy who is more sensitive and who pays more attention to ur needs.

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* always makes sure im safe when i go out

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