He is trying to pick between me and another women
RAB9485 - Oct 15 2014 at 15:57
This guy I'm seeing just got out of an almost 2 year relationship with another women. She broke up with him. I had dated this man before her for about 5 months before I broke it off with him. Just a couple months ago, after she broke up with him, we started seeing each other again. He didn't realize she would fight so hard to get him back. Ever since I broke up with him, I've wanted him back and now that we've been seeing each other for a couple months now, this other woman is trying to get him back too. Well now he has two women who want him back. I don't want to keep seeing him if shes all he's going to think about if he can't get over her. He keeps saying about how much they've been through, which makes me feel like our previous relationship wasn't as fulfilling as his last one was. I don't know if he is really going to get over and even if he does, there will just be a sense of "uncertainty" as we both don't want to mess anything up again. I don't want him to feel like he's losing out on something by being with me, which will just make him sad all the time. But I'm also sacred that if he pick her, he'll lose out on everything he could have had with me. I don't want to be the person who creates an ultimatum, but It's also not realistic to sit around and wait for him to get over her. Because how long will that take? I'm unsure of what to do because I've wanted him back for so long. Should I wait for him to pick one of us or should I just end it now to avoid anymore uncertainty, heartbreak and waiting?
You're a beverage seller whose kiosk is right next to another beverage seller's kiosk. Your customer asks you for a Latte. But just as you ready to pour it, he starts humm-ing and hah-ing about whether he really does want to buy it from you or from your rival. Apparently, he did the exact same to said rival only 5 minutes earlier. The customer is obviously getting some kick out of messing the two of you around.
What would you say to him?
I would HOPE it'd be something like this: "Tell you what, Sir... If you could leave my queue and go wait over there until you've made your decision whether to come back here once having decided you actually DO want to buy a coffee from me or go to the other kiosk if that's how you decide - whichever - that'd be great because then I could get on with serving any other customers who DO know what they want, thanks."
It's called, I am nobody's fool, I love and respect myself and have standards. Either match those standards or take your low-standarded self elsewhere so that I'm free to find someone who's on the same page as me. (And it's mightily attractive.)
This situation's a little different, however, because the previous week you, for whatever reason, told that same 5-month customer of yours that your kiosk was closed, when it wasn't, meaning he, now dejected and upset, had to take his custom to your rival...which he did for 2 whole years until SHE brought her kiosk shutter down on him as well (again, for whatever reason).
So now, *despite* you've since tried to make up for your original mistake, he's stood in front of both your kiosks, having great fun repeatedly going, Eenie-Meenie-Minie-Mo.
The only thing to say to that is, Get your power-crazed ego off my toe.
(Sorry - got my timings mixed up. But you get the gist.)
if he's talking to you so much about the other girl then why stick around to hear something that your ears don't want to be listening to? you'll just keep getting hurt n wandering where you stand with him...
because he's not over the ex then i feel its best that you do your own thing and let him sort his own feelings out, comparing 2yrs to 5mnths I don't think you stand a chance knowing that he has more history with the ex then you have history with him.
lets face it you missed the bus so its time to catch another and move on till hes ready to have that relationship with you