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Hi! Im a girl, and i have always kinda has suspicions since i was like 10 about being bi. I have Liked many boys & have never really liked girls. I always thought they were pretty & i would fantasize about them from time to time but i never clued in that i might be bi. Ive been talking to this girl for months on kik & snapchat & we send nudes and stuff. I would really like today date her i think but i couldnt tell my friends cuz all they know is i like boys. WHAT DO I DO?!?

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So what if all they so far know is you're into boys? Are you worried they'll all reject you for being slightly different to them? Do you have any basis for this or is it just an irrational fear? Or is it in fact a rational fear being however much blamed on this worry about losing friends in order to act as a preventative against coming out before you're actually certain enough that you ARE bi? The reason I ask is because you'd be amazed at how many people's minds manage to trick them into thinking they're bi or even full-blown homosexual when, actually, what they deep-down yearn for without even realising it, is a way to gain a much closer friendship than they feel is available or feel capable of forming under normal circumstances. In other words, they 'pay' for the special friendship that they can tell the other person is capable of, by throwing in a whole sexual element to the friendship deal. That you're worried your friends don't accept you for who you really are could be said to support this possibility. Not saying I'm right. Just giving you food for thought. Assuming you really are bi-sexual: Since you haven't even met this bisexual girl yet, I would say it was a bit premature to start informing all of your friends. I would wait until the third date at least. And I say that because the proof of the pudding, anyway, is going to be when comes the time to have sexual relations. If at that point you find out you really are and feel your friends have a right to know, then, yes, you possibly ARE going to find out who your true friends are amongst that group. Because, really, what difference does it make to THEM what sexual persuasion you possess? Just because one is bi or homosexual, doesn't mean they'll automatically fancy ANYONE. This might be something to mention in your little speech, once you're ready to deliver it, just to pre-empt any such potential paranoid nonsense on their part, just to be safe. You could also ask this girl how SHE went about it (assuming she's 'out'?). But again, were it me, I'd wait until it was time to cross that bridge before asking her.

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PS: Tip: I wouldn't EVER worry about losing friends. Firstly, making friends tends to happen automatically, unforced, especially whenever we have a newly formed vacancy for one. That you're both available and receptive gets transmitted through each others' vibes. Secondly, some friends aren't meant to be with you for longer than a 'season'. Those tend to be the friends we 'sought out' due to one or a set of circumstances or short-term beliefs/attitudes in common, rather than a connection of core moral fibre that no amount of changing circumstances can truly ruin thus which lasts for life.

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