I have been with my partner for nearly a year and we had what appeared to be a blissful relationship.Until I moved in and his behaviour changed he was always on the internet. He said it was the best
relationship hes ever had but I checked his internet history and there were awful websites I.e. sex contacts websites and websites for local escort agencies.I was heartbroken and checked the websites and was appalled by what I saw and informed the websites of my disgust.I was physically sick.I thought he really was a decent man. Ive moved out obviously but I blame myself for not being attractive enough as he said Im past my prime. Im 42 and its hit my confidence really badly. Hes says he has a problem and wants us to go to relationship counselling but im heartbroken.
You blame YOURSELF because this man looks st sex contactescort websites? He shovels the reason for his actions onto you?
Yes, YOU need the counseling. We know he's a jerk, but what's with you taking the blame for his actions? How'd you get such low self esteem?
PS: Age 42 is PRIME Baby!! Believe me, I know.
Anyway, I expect given a choice between being seen by MERELY ONE INDIVIDUAL as past your prime or being classable as a jerk and pervert to millions, you'd take the former any day!
Don't bother getting back with him. Leave him to roll around in his problematic muck without involving you and inevitably dragging you down with him. It's a classic sign of an emotional abuser if the minute they feel they've netted you, they drop the charm offensive and prior standards to that massive degree. It means the man who wooed and impressed you was all just an act.
His 'past your prime' comment was highly likely an attempt to bat back, anyway, to turn your mind immediately from focusing on his problem onto you and what might be (not) wrong with you. Classic tactic. Don't waste energy giving it any credibility. Evidence says you were attractive enough and within your prime enough that he wanted to woo you to the point of getting you to move in, does it not? There you go - actions! He's talking pure BS.
The man who wooed and dated you for a year never actually existed, anyway. And who the HELL wants a LOVE partner who can bring himself to say such horrid things to his so-called special someone, anyway!
Bleugh. "You're fired! Neeeext!"
PS: My arse wants to add: "Tell him his weener's too tiny for a woman of *any* age". LOL Let's see how he likes the taste of his own medicine, shall we? :-p
For him to say such thing is a sign to run to the nearest EXIT door before its too late, he's a manipulative type of person & thats the last thing you need to have in your life especially if he can easily make you think that you are past your prime.
In saying that he obviously can't talk, I don't see him leaving you to get the type he sees on porn sites....
Don't feel you need to change your image or the way you are just to impress anyone, we were all created in different shapes & sizes, we all have our own way of unique beauty.
For him to convince you that you are what he says you are shows that you dont exactly respect yourself & to even agree with it shows that the longer you stay in this relationship the more control he has over you & will make you feel at your lowest.
Get out while you can & stop waisting your time on someone who can't respect you enough to love who you are, if he can get satisfied by watching things on the computer or tv then so be it. He's doing you a favour by making you realize he is not the one for you. That potential other half is out there BUT ITS NOT HIM
"I don't see him leaving you to get the type he sees on porn sites...."
Ha-ha - excellent point!