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I'm hurt

Posted by
STARR
on Nov 2 2014 at 11:01
Member since: 02 November 2014
Relationship advice I have re connected with a person I was in love with in high school. We are planning a life together after he retires. We live in different states. He will be retiring soon. The problem is he still lives with his wife. I have told him that its the wrong thing to do, but he says he will stay with her until he retires. Now in the next week we are planning a road trip to visit a city to see if we want to live there. I don't know what to do, it just hurts so much that he does this, I don't understand it.

I'm hurt

Reply from
VICTORIA
on Nov 2 2014 at 13:11
Member since: 02 November 2014
You are not thinking clearly. You are just a mistress if you have anything to do with him right now. If he means it, he'll contact you after he retires and is completely divorced. Love doesn't excuse wrong behavior.

I'm hurt

Reply from
I_CARE
on Nov 3 2014 at 22:01
Member since: 03 November 2014
Oh that is rough.......

How long have you two been together?

When does he retire?

It does seem very confusing. If you two are looking at a place

to be together it seems it might be serious.

I'd prepare for heartbreak just in case......

I'm hurt

Reply from
SUSIEDQQ
on Nov 4 2014 at 14:09
Member since: 27 December 2013
What do you mean he "lives" with his wife?

Is he divorced? Does she know about you? Are there children involved?

How is it that you made these mature-years plans with a man who has such baggage? He really has no right to make these kinds of plans at the place he is now.

I'm hurt

Reply from
MOUNTAIN
on Nov 4 2014 at 17:01
Member since: 24 February 2014
Hi you are in a tough position. You are giving yourself the chance of half a life with this man. If he cannot step out and be with you 100 percent what s he scared of?

I would advise you to step back from this for you.

Get things clear in your head and start planning YOUR future, pleasing yourself from now on. My point being that, he seems to please himself,while your life is on hold. You create your home for you, f he or anyone else wants to join you well and good.

Remember who you are..... you are a person with value,start putting all your energies back into you,before you lose who you are.

Are both of you looking back to an earlier life and stuck in the past?

Look after yourself...

I'm hurt

Reply from
STARR
on Nov 7 2014 at 17:50
Member since: 02 November 2014
He has said for me to trust him, he has a plan and so I am going to trust him. This trip we're going on is a huge step.

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