How long have you two been together?
When does he retire?
It does seem very confusing. If you two are looking at a place
to be together it seems it might be serious.
I'd prepare for heartbreak just in case......
Is he divorced? Does she know about you? Are there children involved?
How is it that you made these mature-years plans with a man who has such baggage? He really has no right to make these kinds of plans at the place he is now.
I would advise you to step back from this for you.
Get things clear in your head and start planning YOUR future, pleasing yourself from now on. My point being that, he seems to please himself,while your life is on hold. You create your home for you, f he or anyone else wants to join you well and good.
Remember who you are..... you are a person with value,start putting all your energies back into you,before you lose who you are.
Are both of you looking back to an earlier life and stuck in the past?
Look after yourself...
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