My marriage and my secret
Im 22 years old. Ive been married for 2 years and weve been together almost 5. We have a beautiful 18 month old little girl who was conceived right around the time of our wedding. Everything was amazing until I caught my husband on dating websites and local hook up websites last december. Since then ive done things im not proud of seeking attention. I cant get past the things we have done to each other. He lies about stupid things like telling me he has fed the horses when he hasnt. Or about money. Hes had the same job for 8 years but isnt willing to find something with better pay so we can afford our home. Im going to school and I work part time as a caregiver. My child is with me every bay except sunday she spends the day with his mom anf goes to church.
Im not happy. Ive tried talking to hin about it and hr just doesnt really have much to say.
Ive met someone who is willing to wait for me to make a decision. He owns his own company is handsome and offering me pretty much
every thing I have ever wanted. He is sweet and charming. We havr a lot in common and can talk all day without running out of things to talk about. I could really see a future with this man.
My delima is taking my child out of state away from her father. Would that be selfish? Even if we set up visits as often as possible?
Hey wait...try not to open up one door before closing another one. Try not to move too fast and concentrate on healing if and when you separate or get divorced. If the new guy is willing to wait for you then he wont mind being patient as you resolve this situation with your current situation. As I read your post you mentioned everything was amazing until....every relationship has its honeymoon phase and once you transition into being comfortable you find out things about people you never anticipated on finding out so take it slow. Both of you have done things to one another and I would like to encourage you to get to the root problem. I encourage you to focus on yourself and heal from the past because if you don't you will move into another relationship to repeat the cycle. Internally you might be following a pattern...I don't know I am no doctor but before you do anything take small steps. First address what's going on with your husband...I mean keep trying to communicate until you have exhausted all avenues and then you can move onto the next step which might be a separation. Talk to one another, find out why the marriage is going the way it is. Don't just give up....you guys have been together for about 7 years now. There were zero signs of trouble before? What is going on? Please don't leave yet....this is going to be tough but you have to grow before moving on, You have to heal before going into another relationship. Best of luck to you and your husband and lil bundle of joy.