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I have been single for almost 8 years now and have no luck in maintaining a relationship and I never knew why. I am attractive, smart, well dressed, you know all the characteristics I thought men were attractive to. I had all but given up on having a meaningful relationship because apparently there was something terribly wrong with me and no one had the courage to tell me the truth. So finally, a family member sat me down and told me I am too independent, which absolutely made no sense to me. I grew up in a household where both parents taught me to be independent and self sufficient so I would never have to rely on anyone else to take care of me. I can maintain my own car, fix things around the house, etc. It never dawned on me that men could see this as a negative, I always felt being a strong, independent woman was a great trait.

Now, I can see how some men may find this off-putting, because he wouldn't see why I would have a need for him if I can already do everything for myself. My question is, how can I let go of the control? I never realized I was making them feel emasculated..

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Baldersash -!!

Find a new "pool" of men.

The kind of 'need' you want to fill is not whether or not you can change your own tire.

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Somewhere out there there will be a good man for you. Just be patient. However you might not need a man and be perfectly capable by yourself. It's your choice. Good luck!

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