My man tracks my cell and has a girlfriend?
My man tracks my cell phone calls, location, and text messages. How can I get him to trust me? I love my man very much. We started dating about eight months ago. At that time I was separated from my husband and he already had a girlfriend for about 10 years. I legally divorced my husband so that I can be with this man. We started sleeping together at the workplace after he gave me some advice about a difficult situation. I gave him permission to be able to use And install a cell phone monitoring device to track everything on my phone so he can learn to trust me. Since we have been together I have messed up with a few things by lying about some serious stuff and I know that, however, he still loves his current girlfriend while he's dating me and I want him to make a decision. He keeps telling me how much he loves me and that we have a magical connection and he also wants to date for a little while before he gets married. I'm trying very hard especially since he's tracking cell phone to be honest and tell the truth about everything. how can I get him to trust me? I deserve him and he deserves me and I need him to make a decision and leave his girlfriend once and for all for me? I'm in love with him deeply and said he can see a future with me and I know I can see one with him at times but I feel frustrated and confused.
If this man loved you the way he says he does, he would be with you totally. You would be his. He wouldn't need to have a GF or have the need to date a little more before he gets married(?!) You allow him to control you via your cell device but he can do whatever he wants(?!)
You don't need to get him to trust you, rather you need to open your eyes to what sort of a man he is and basically, you need to be able to trust him if that's possible going by your post.
You have stated that you divorced your husband to be with this man but you need to realize that yes, you need to get divorced but you also need to get over your previous relationship properly before you can successful be with someone else and that can take years sometimes. This applies to him as well and I'm sorry, but he can't possibly tell you that he loves you and feels a connection with you when he's with someone else.
If you feel you deserve each other, then your confusion and frustration is only going to escalate because this guy is a selfish, insecure and manipulative individual who is stringing you along. The sooner you distance yourself from this guy, the sooner you will eventually find someone who respects you and will be totally loyal to you and you alone.
Ditto everything Manalone's just said.