Help with a girl
Hey, I've known this girl for a while now, around 6-7 months, and second night we chilled we hooked up. We have been talking ever since but it wasn't really that serious. Now me and her are chilling more often, She came to my house a couple times and we fooled around, but no intercourse. The thing that bothers me a lot is that she told me she doesn't like relationships, and doesn't want one until she is out of highschool. Now I chilled with her today and we kissed a lot more, she let me kiss her neck and feel her up, and she was really into it too, like she was breathing heavy and running her fingers thru my hair. But sometimes when I would try to kiss her she would let me, then pull away and giggle and laugh a little bit. She doesn't mind me putting my hands on her or kissing her neck. I wan't to tell her how I feel but her personality is different than most girls I've met. I can relate to her more, and talk to her like one of my guy friends. She never gets me annoyed or bored, and I don't want to lose her as a friend, but I don't want her to be with someone else. Any help please?? I think this is my first love because whenever I think about her my body feels different and I get goosebumps sometimes :$
This seems like the perfect example of a girl who just wants to have fun. I know it may seem really hard for you to accept the fact that she would let you kiss her neck, feel her up, etc. but won't start a relationship. This is totally valid. When she told you she doesn't like relationships, did you tell her you want one?
In my opinion, the only way you can avoid getting very, very hurt is if you two sit down and talk about it. Let her tell you what she expects out of your relationship and what boundaries she'd like to set (for example, no relationship) and then you tell her what you're looking for and try to make a decision.
I actually am sort of in the same situation my man. She called us 'best friends' but not a couple. That's how it has always been. Even though we have done everything a couple does, she insists to only remain friends. Just don't rush anything. Don't try to make her want a relationship with you. it pushes them away and i had to find out the hard way. Just be simple and be her friend with benefits for now. As long as she isn't fooling around with anyone else you shouldn't have to worry. But if you get the feeling she might be 'playing the field' then you might have a different scenario. But overall, just have fun while she is having fun with you. You're still in high school, it's about having fun. Don't forget that.
Well I did talk to her about how she felt and she said she likes me and all but isnt ready for a commitment just yet. Im giving her some time now but it feels like shes getting more drier towards me, and we still chill sometimes, but not often. We still talk as much but like I said, she kind of changed how she talks to me but just a little.
Just try not to seem like you are too interested in her. If you do then she will think she has you anytime she wants and it shouldn't be that way. And don't rush a relationship. Because that often makes them friend zone you completely.