What happened to us?
Hey, I have an issue you might be able to tell me more about. So I've been friends with this girl, Holly, since March of last year. I could tell she was into me, but I kind of didn’t see much between us. She had a boyfriend of 3 years and I was honestly looking to date her. Well, eventually after talking a lot and becoming better and better friends, I started to like her a lot. She had a great personality and I really like her. Somehow we discussed that we did like each other and she ended up breaking up with her boyfriend for me. Technically though, we never started dating. We were in the process (in my point of view) but was never an official status.
So things were going good for about a month. We hung-out a lot, went on dates, became very close, and eventually started having sex. We were practically in a relationship just like I said, no status yet. Well, I could slowly start to tell that she seemed to not like me like I thought she used to. Before when she had a boyfriend and I didn’t see anything but friends between us, I thought, “I can’t get away from this girl!” Now it seems like it is reversed. She decided that she just wants to be friends still. Although she said she eventually wants to date later on, but how long is later on? She thought we were moving too fast and getting too serious, but I was going the pace she wanted to, not trying to rush anything. She was the one who started calling me babe first, posting pictures of me, and all of a sudden just stopped. Like we never had anything.
I have tried to text her but now she seems to be ignoring me. I don’t know why. Like we used to ALWAYS walk into work together, and now she doesn’t want to. She won’t reply to my texts and it’s not like her. Even though she said she just wants to be friends as of right now, she can’t even reply to me? Friends don’t ignore other friends ( I directly texted that to her by the way). Like, I’m confused and didn’t think I’d be so upset but I am. I think it’s because I don’t have an answer why she did this all of a sudden. I don’t know whether she is trying to find someone else in the meantime and if she can’t she will come back to me or what? I decided to stop texting her. I want to text her and try to figure it out, but she doesn’t give me any answers and probably won’t reply. It’s been about a 4 days now since we’ve talked. I just am not sure what to do. I like her still, even though I know I shouldn’t if she is just going to ignore me. She said she doesn’t like anyone and that she just wants to have fun right now. Is this true? Or what’s really going on?
As you know, I feel your pain. It literally feels like abandonment. You ask yourself what did I do wrong? What could I have done to make this last longer? We just have to realize if someone doesn't have enough respect to reply to you then they aren't even worth our time. I mean seriously, what is that? Also, I think its a huge red flag that she broke up with her ex "for me." Who's to say that she wouldn't have eventually done that to you? Or is doing the same thing. Sure, it's flattering for someone to do that for you. But patterns tend repeat themselves. She probably didn't realize that she enjoyed being single after a 3 year relationship. As much as it hurts to say, she is a flake and seems to only care about herself. And you deserve a girl that wants you, and to have "fun" with you while you are involved in their life. There is someone out there that will truly appreciate you!!
You have been a big help. And i really appreciate it. It's best to just take a breath sometimes and think about the better case scenarios. I know I still have a lot of life to live, so i can't keep wishing on something not important anymore. But you are right, i need someone who will appreciate me and what i have to give them in a relationship.