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PICTUREOFNEWLOVE
- Nov 14 2014 at 00:53
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Relationship advice I met this guy a few months ago. Well, officially. We went to high school together and have seen each other around a few times after that, but finally met and really hit it off. I am going to college in a different part of the state I am in. I am a senior, so I am about to graduate in a semester. We weren't able to see each other as often as I'd hope. We texted everyday pretty much all day. But I would come back some weekends and I'd be able to see him on those occasions. I always felt like I had to initiate seeing each other since I was the one coming back in town. I didn't really notice or mind, until I recently came back to town for a week. I felt like I had to scratch at his door to hang out the whole time. We tend to hang out during the evening/night since he works. So I came back and asked to see him the Friday I got there, and he said yes, but "fell asleep at his friends house" that night. I told him if you wanted to see me tomorrow then he can let me know. He hit me up around 11:30 pm the day after, telling me he was at a bar we've been to a few times. So, I some how ended up inviting myself over there. And when I got there he was alone..and I asked him did you just get here? and he told me he had been there for a while and friends left a bit ago. I guess I wished he had hit me up earlier. kind of makes me feel like I wasn't a priority that night. But, I got over it. So the following Tuesday I ask to hang out and he tells me he has work in the morning (which has never stopped him from doing night time activities) so he can't, but he'd like to hang tomorrow. I had made plans to see a concert the next night so that wouldn't work. I suggested that we can just hang for a little bit, since it was 8:30pm. He told me he would like to, but he felt like "poo", and that he was sorry. So I was like what ever dude, and I didn't text him for a few days then on Friday I hit him up, because we had talked about maybe doing something for that previously. He replied to my hey. But he never responded about hanging out that night, so I texted him close to midnight asking him what was up? and he told me that his friends dog was getting put down tomorrow so he was being a good friend and hanging out with him....I got so enraged, because I felt like that was such an excuse and I was leaving back to school the next day..I told him "you don't seem to have time to hang with me ,so guess i'll see you around." He never replied... I just couldn't believe he could be completely satisfied with seeing me for only one night out of the whole week I was there. I mean, if I lived there and was always available, then I get it, but I'm not! So, a few days after, I was thinking about it, and felt pretty bad about just cutting the the string like that. I thought maybe I overreacted to the situation and that I made a mistake to jump the gun like that. So I texted him telling him that I was sorry for being a jerk, and I get that life happens. I told him that I cared and I liked getting to know him etc. It took a lot of courage for me to do that knowing that this could go so many ways. I figured he'd tell me, your a cool chick but i'm no longer interested anymore. but...he never replied..Which may have made it worse for me because I felt like I was in limbo for a few days. And I'd prefer to just know. Since then, I haven't talked to him and he hasn't texted me. But, every post I put on facebook he "likes".. pretty close to immediately after me posting, which he never did before. I'm trying not to read into it too much, but it's hard when you still care and see that they are acknowledging you. I guess I would just like someone to help me out and tell me what they think he is trying to relay. Is this him reaching out to me because he is scared of an actual conversation? Maybe it's him just trying to put himself in front of me just so I don't forget that he's still around? I don't understand what he is thinking. I want to text him and be like heyy...?? but I won't, because he perfectly capable of hitting me up...If he really really wanted to..I'm just trying to figure out how to perceive this...

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ROBERT J
- Nov 14 2014 at 01:12
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I am currently going through the same problem, and yes it sucks. With us, we were nearly about to date it seemed like and all of a sudden, nothing. No texts back. From texting everyday for the past 6 months you want to just ignore me? I was just as mad and enraged as you were. Actually, i am still pretty pissed off because it's only been four days and i hope she texts me so that i can get more mad at her and ask why she doesn't reply, but that probably won't happen. SO anyways, sorry about my speech just had it built up and needed to tell someone... As far as i can tell, he seems to be distant from you. I don't know why unless he is trying to say he just wants to be friends (like the girl in my case- she just wants to be friends for now, but how can we if she doesn't reply?) If i were you, i wouldn't text him. Don't have that urge to say Hey. Yes, i know you want to, because i want to get answers from the girl i was talking to, but be strong. Don't be the weak one. Wait until they come to you. I know, it might not happen, but let it be. If they want to talk to you, then they will. Just worry about yourself. If you're like me, you don't see why they have to be so childish and petty about it, but that's people for you. Some suck, and we just have to let it be. Best of luck to you. And remember to be strong. Don't tweet him, don't snap-chat him, etc. And don't stress out, it isn't worth it.

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PICTUREOFNEWLOVE
- Nov 14 2014 at 01:23
Member since: Nov 2014
Thank you for the reply. I just hate how romantic relationships seem like such a power struggle. It's ridiculous! I'm sorry to hear you are going through the same thing. It's such an awful feeling. Please, don't apologize for your speech (we have to let it out or we will explode!), in the saddest way ever it gave me comfort to know i'm not completely alone. But the struggle can't be forever right?? All we want are answers! If they would just tell us they aren't interested anymore, yeah it would hurt, but at least I'd know..And probably have more respect for them in the future. I think it's the silence and hope we still carry that hurts the most. Easier said than done to forget someone, but it must be done!!

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ROBERT J
- Nov 14 2014 at 01:37
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You're exactly right. It is just the fact that they won't reply to us and act like we aren't even on their mind. We do want answers, but i try to think, "what's it worth?" I already have the idea that she isn't interested in me anymore and I'll have to go with that. But i would definitely have more respect for them if they told the truth, no matter how hard it would hurt. In the back of my mind I'm still hopeful there will eventually be something but, it's just wishful thinking. But you aren't alone. We are just two people. There's millions going through what we do. We can get through it. Just going to take some time. The worst part in my case was losing a best friend. If we could have just went back to that then i'd be fine. But now it's nothing between us. That's what was the worst part about it. Knowing that you were friends for so long and then, it just ends...

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