I love my boyfriend more than anything in this planet. He is the only guy I have really felt this way about and could love deeply enough to tell him everything about me even my own deep and dark secrets. I am overweight and I am not really the best looking. By far there are women in my predicament who are prettier and by far a lot worse looking than I am and they manage to get men left and right. As for me? I couldn't keep a man if my life depended on it. I have had many unsuccessful relationships that barely lasted six months and it was all infidelity issues or the guy turned out to be a nut job.
But the one day Daniel came into my life. We started talking on the phone and then November of 2011 he came down here to see me and we have been together since, it's been a very rough 3 years and now I am very worried me relationship with him is doomed due to the circumstances. Our relationship started rocky and rough because he stole money to come down and see me, and as it progressed I find out a lot of other baggage he has that he has carried with him. He is a great guy to me. He's funny, if he has something he helps me the best he can, he protects me and looks out for me, and the best part is he doesn't care that I'm over weight and it isn't an issue to him. He loves me for what is on the inside. It's a long and complicated story of how we met and got together in the first place but in the three years I have learned a lot about him through what he has told me and I know he's a little bit not right and he has ADHD untreated which in the long haul it really does effect him as a person because people think he is immature, and as mad as he gets when I mention this, he is easily manipulated by people and gullible and because of that, that is the ultimate reason he has extra baggage.
Everyone in my family has disowned him and for another long story I have to stay with my mom for the moment while he is staying with my brother and my brother is getting ready to boot him out by December. Because of other issues Daniel hasn't been able to find a job after he lost his last job because of my dad and now everyone is getting on my ass and telling me he is my hood just because he lost his job and hasn't been able to find one. I have been around several times with him while he has applied for places and done whatever he can to find a job and he just isn't having luck. I have been through so much in the last three years with this guy (long story) and due to our cicumstances I'm to the point where I am about to give up on our relationship. I love him a lot but it seems like everything in the universe is designing itself for our relationship to be disastrous and I'm to the point where I am tired of fighting to keep it. He isn't ready to give up just yet hut I feel like I'm a little more cynical about this than he is. What would you do in my situation?
Were both trying to get our life on track but it seems like everybody and life in general wants to tear us apart.
"Our relationship started rocky and rough because he stole money to come down and see me. The best part is he doesn't care that I'm over weight and it isn't an issue to him."
You staying with a thief because you feel that an honest person is not available due to your weight. That is wrong thinking.
He stole money to come and see you. That was a red flag, and you should have ended the relationship then.
Break up with him, then read some books on how to raise your self-esteem.