The ex is back
HI I am still in love with my ex and after we broke up this year we have still remained close and neither one of us has dated anyone seriously since we have been broken up.I was always hopeful that me and him will get together again in the future when after I spend some time getting myself together. At this time I am not working and he says he wants me to work on myself so I can be more happy. HE says he can tell how unhappy I am and I need to just focus on my happiness. Out of the blue his ex girlfriend calls and says she wants to work it out . I am heartbroken. This is the ex that he was crazy about. His father also likes the ex girlfriend that he dated before me. I think his father is trying to get them back together . Should I just let this go since my ex boyfriend dad likes the other girl and he is working on getting his son to be with her as we speak. His dad has reached out to his ex and wants to talk to her .
You need to realise that although you are still in love with him, you have posted here that the ex that he was crazy about is back in his life. Rather than worry about that his father has become involved, you instead, should be looking at that although you want your ex back, if he doesn't want to come back, then you need to move on.
His words of advise to you of focusing on yourself and your own happiness is basically telling you that he wants you to move on and be happy.
The sooner you move on, the sooner you will be happy and the sooner you will find someone else who has the NEED to be with you totally.
Yes I know I need to move on. He says he is still in love with me but thinks he can do better smh. I tried calling him multiple times just now. I know I need to let him go starting now.
Thinks he can do better? The poor boy's CONFUUUUSED.
"I know I need to let him go starting now".
Good job, too! Who wants the kind of (er) man who can't run his own adult love-life without the concerted involvement of "Dadda"? What kind of offspring results from being raised by a supposedly grown man who'd even meddle in his son's private adult affairs in the first place? Who wants the kind of man who thinks a woman's so thick (whether or not when under emotional fire) that she'd see no chasmic contradiction lain between his allegedly being crazy in love with the ex yet that degree allegedly simultaneously leaving plenty of love left over for said other woman?
So, he'd have you believe via such logical extrapolation that he's confused, right? (right!)
Are YOU happiest whenever you're confused? That's a big fat No, isn't it. What do majorly confused people tend to be? Wait, it's on the tip of my to-UNHAPPY!
Yet he claims YOU'RE the one who's unhappy and needs to self-sort?
Yeah, well, so would I be with a so-called lover like that, messing me around during the relationship *and* even long after it's supposed to be over.
Never mind LETTING HIM go. Put your foot in the small of his back and PUSH!
No, he can't do better. He clearly doesn't *want* better. Better is as better does which in this case is, NOT pretend to have feelings and string TWO people along (whilst Dadda ties his wickle shoelaces). So that 'better' would be you, isn't it. (right!)
You and your superior heart now finally get to dodge a bullet.
ONWARDS AND UPWARDS TO WHERE THE *IMPRESSIVE* MEN HANG OUT! :-)
Yes I love your post! You gave me a boost of confidence. I'm going to just use this time to focus on being the best mr I can and get completely over him. Im doing the no contact rule so far and this is hard but I will get through it
That's the spirit! And remember, every time you break No-sorry ZERO Contact (whether it's you initiating or taking a call/text from him) you put yourself straight back however many squares (like dieting), meaning the longer it takes to get over him PLUS the greater the chance of missing crossing paths with the next, *far* better candidate - one whose love make you HAPPY, not ill.
Timing is everything. And I know, because I *am* that soldier. Had I not been strong enough to cut off and KEEP cut off all contact with the ex when I did (to point of acting dead), events that followed wouldn't have led to my being long-term blissfully happily married to my true soulmate. Sure, I'd likely be with another out of my total number of soulmates. But I believe the one I did get with was THE very best out of the entire bunch... Right Person (oh, yes!), Right Place (thank god!), Right Time (he couldn't have been mentally and practically riper and readier if he'd tried!). ONE WEEK into my relationship with him and already the ex began looking like the idiot he was, meaning his (too late) attempts to chase me back (including finally sobbing down the phone) proved futile. "Sorry, no way - I've found a diamond and Nothing Compares 2 Him (least of all you, ya dipstick :-p)".
Knowing how easily hubster and I might have missed crossing paths with each other that precise day, week, year, even now makes me SHUDDER!
Shame we don't all have a crystal ball to look into, isn't it. But we don't, so it takes a leap of faith and keeping the faith via something to focus on. Try this: Things always turn out fine or even great in the end. So if things aren't fine or great, it just means it's not the end yet. :-)