Does he or doesn't he
So im in a new relationship with this guy and I really like him but don't know if he really likes me or not ....heres the deal first of all he never texts me first I always have to text him first. we have had good times together him even buying me tickets to a concert five hours away. he treats me nice when we are together. but its sometimes weeks before I see him again even though we don't live that far apart. the last time we were together he said he loved me and I would be the person he would marry but then again he was really drunk..i have told him after that that if he didn't want to be in a relationship then let me know im a big girl and I can handle it. he was like no we can be in a relationship. I don't know I've never asked questions like this online its hard to explain...just mostly I feel like im getting mixed signals sometimes I feel like he really likes me and sometimes I feel like he is just in this relationship cuz he got drunk and made me change my fb status and hes saving face or something...anyways just starting this topic out there's more to it but this is just beginning it I guess
This sounds familiar... Firstly establish that he's not in any other relationship (just rule that one out)
Secondly, do you know if he's been in an overwhelming relationship in the past - and he me trying to avoid following that path...
Or maybe you're just a little more 'clingy' than he is
Some people take to time to develop that bond, and are develop relationships at a much slower place.
Or finally maybe he likes his own space and time, and is enjoying having you on tap as and when it suits him. Gently suggest you would like and need to spend a little more time together, see how he reacts - if he agrees make it clear that you will not be making all the effort and you would like and need him to be the pursuer too.
Give it 4 weeks, and if things have not Changed, it may be ultimatum time.
From what you have said it looks like he likes you and wouldn't MIND a relationship but doesn't actually love you.
Give it time and if things are not improving, you will need to walk away.