PeoplesProblems Logo

Date And Relationship in general doubts.

Default profile image
Relationship advice Hey greetings, i´m Pedro, from Portugal.

I have a friend in my life for some time now(like 2 years), and have always had a close relationship, but early this year, he really quit contact because of a circle of lies i found out about her, and that pissed off a lot of her friends, not only me, but then i realized maybe i was a bit too severe with her when she came to apology me like 4 months ago.

Moving on with that part, i´m studyin in another town than her(i´m in Braga, she´s in Porto), although i go to Porto every weekend because that´s where i´m from and where my parents live and it´s only 50 miles from Braga. We have been talkin since that time, and we are not strangers, we know each other, but we can only have so much fun when texting, so for a month i had thoughs of asking her out, i first said "Would you Like to do something with me, like having some drinks or so?" she answered "Of course yes" but then she had some family stuff to do and because i´m only at weekends at Porto, i couldn´t do much about it. Some 2 weeks later to my surprise, a bit random, we were really chatting about a injury my mom suffered, and she told me to give her a get well kiss, which i said i would deliver and said thanks for her concern, in which she replied " :) Look Pedro, we could go have a cup of coffee this weekend if you want" i said yes, but she then had to prepare a family lunch and dinner(which i believe is true). But one thing i noticed, that she seems diferente, even before she invited for that coffee, she was never a girl that was shy, but she looks a little bit shy, i wouldn´t say she doesn´t want to go out with me because we still have good talks, but she looks a bit shy with me, thing she never was, and i wonder why she is texting me less, when actually she was the one that invited me last and we didn´t go out because of her, not because of me. But, moving on, tuesday i decided to quit being a coward and asked her if she wanted to see Hunger Games with me(and possibily go have Dinner with me after it), to which she replied "It sounds like a great idea :) i had already thought of that, but didn´t want you to feel obligied to go with me", since this is friday and i´m goin to Porto today, i decided to give her a reminder "So, when do you want to see Hunger Games? :) "to which still she hasn´t replied. I´m really a bit lost here, is she playin games with me? Wants me to be more assertive or so? I Feel that since she invited me for some cofee she became quite distant, but the things i dodn´t have any fault with that, she was the one who a family meetin to prepare to.

Would really like your opinion, and sorry for some bad spell, but english isn´t my native language and i don´t use any translator.

Best Regards, Pedro

Date And Relationship in general doubts.

Default profile image
have you ever met her in real life before or has this relationship always been text based?

Date And Relationship in general doubts.

Default profile image
You have tried to meet with her and she always has an excuse.

Something is very suspicious here.

Step back and move on to another girl. This girl is too much of a mystery. She seems to be hiding something.


Date And Relationship in general doubts.

Default profile image
Yes, i´ve met her in my life, she´s one of my best friends, i´ve been with her before, not alone like spendin hours with her, but have been in group activieties with her and stuff and we trust each other much.

The thing is the excuse are true, i´ve known that, she even send me a picture of what she had to do for her family dinner that made her cancel our "date". And also, if she was interested she wouldn´t have invited me to a cup of coffee. I know her very well, if she doesn´t want somethin she´s honest with me, that´s why i found this strange. My friends tell me that either she´s shy because maybe she´s feelin something more for me but is afraid that i don´t feel the same and is backing off or somethin else.

Date And Relationship in general doubts.

Default profile image
This will all get solved WHEN you two get together.

Let us know . . .

Date And Relationship in general doubts.

Default profile image
I see, but what do you really mean by that?

Date And Relationship in general doubts.

Default profile image
Susie? Sorry for being inpatient, but now that i´m trough with exam season at university, i don´t have much to think, and i find myself a bit stressed out thinking about this.

Date And Relationship in general doubts.

Default profile image
Time to stop thinking and time to take action.

You two need to get together.

All your anxiety is about getting together, and you have not even done that enough to get to know each other.

She has one excuse or another. Valid or not, you must see her asap.

Meet, and then you can figure out what is going on.

Date And Relationship in general doubts.

Default profile image
Do you feel she may be hiding some feelings for me, maybe wants to tell me personally? Also, do you feel goin to the cinema alone with a Girl is a Date?

We know each other very well, yeah he never spent alone only we two, but i feel i know her well, and she knows me well, but yeah it´s not the same when you are alone.

This thread has expired - why not start your own?

B-2