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Two male friends

Posted by
CNA
on Dec 6 2014 at 20:35
Member since: 06 December 2014
Relationship advice Hi all, so i have this male friend (lets call him A) who i have known for about a year and he has confessed that he has feelings for me.

I have several guy friends as i am more comfortable with the opposite gender. There is this particular male friend (B) that i have known for several years now.

I am quite the chatter online on social websites like whatsapp and i mostly chat with these two friends of mine (A and B).

However, A is really disturbed by the fact that i chat with other male friends of mine, especially B. He expressed that he feels i am getting too overly close with B and do not feel that B and i are just friends. He also mentioned that he feels very hurt whenever i spend time online with B instead of him.

However, i feel that i do spend alot more of my time with A rather than B (i spend about 1 or 2 hours every weekday and some of my weekend, the rest of my time is mostly spent with A). But A insists that i try to cut down my time with B because it hurts him.

I have refused to do that as i do not see the need to do that as i feel that i do no feel that i am doing anything wrong and my time with B is limited. But i do not want A to be hurt any further, or any more of my desperate attempts to express my thoughts or come up with solutions.

Is there anything that i can do or is there any way i could express this to him ? We have had many talks about this and both of us has refused to give in. I need help.

Two male friends

Reply from
SUSIEDQQ
on Dec 6 2014 at 20:54
Member since: 27 December 2013
Are these on-line frienships, or in person/

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Reply from
SOLVED
on Dec 7 2014 at 06:49
Member since: 07 December 2014
Lets have a chat on the same topic, Almost a same condition but m person B nd u and A knows me ... what u think?

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Reply from
AAAA
on Dec 7 2014 at 07:00
Member since: 07 December 2014
Like A nd u r too close to each other may b like lover nd B is your too close as friend, knows about u read ur face nd all that... A and B met with you same time just like a group of 3 peoples... B feels ignorance feels hurt that she is nt responding to him as A but being a friend he just ignore all the hurt feelings and remains with u without asking u anything nd u know how B feels but u cant do any thing because when u respond B, A hurts and asks u so many thing like m leaving, enjoy with B, your family is B, that hurts u too much nd u share all these facts with B, B try his best to stay away and c u happy but cant leave u because he know u need him too, A also hurts B too by pointing u...what u think about U A and B???

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Reply from
CNA
on Dec 7 2014 at 15:01
Member since: 06 December 2014
SUSIEDQQQ:

A was my classmate until a few months ago (we graduated) and i met B online and i have been gaming online with him for several years now.

SOLVED:

Im sorry, but i don't quite understand what you are saying, i am assuming that you asked what do i think will happen if A and B met. If A and B were to meet and interact i do not think any good will come out of it as A may blurt out hurtful words to B.

AAAA:

To get it clear, A and B do not know each other in person, but they do know about each other's existence. I have not brought up this matter to B (or maybe i should?). B does not feel very affected by A, however.

Both A and B are my dear friends and i do not think i bear any romantic feelings for either of them if that is what you are asking.

Thank you for all of your replies, i sincerely appreciate it :)

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Reply from
SUSIEDQQ
on Dec 7 2014 at 17:11
Member since: 27 December 2013
A has told you how he feels about you chatting with other guys and spending time with them instead of with him. It's a valid request from a BF. So, is he or isn't he your BF?

So there you have it. Either be A's or let him go - and game away with B, C, D or whomever.

A wants a real, in-person relationship. Are you ready for that?

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Reply from
CNA
on Dec 7 2014 at 17:29
Member since: 06 December 2014
SUSIEDQQQ:

A and i are currently friends at the moment. I don't really feel ready for a relationship with A because recently because of this problem we have, many sides of him that i have not seen before is surfacing and i realised i don't really know him as well as i thought. Im really unsure if he's someone i want to be with.

I really wish to stay friends with both of them, i really treasure my friendships with them.

As usual, thanks for you reply

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