My boyfriend has mixed feelings
I've been dating a guy for 8 months and still counting. For most of our relation he practicly lived at my place, with my family. About a week ago he moved back to his place because he didn't want us to end like another realionship of his(which ended because she cheated, but he think it was the routine) because we lived together. Then he became a little bit cold, but he still told me that he loves me and he misses me. Five days after he moved he told me that he doesn't know what is he feeling anymore. We talked through messages about it, and he told me that he does miss me, but the rest is still the same. We are gonna meet in 2 day at his place to talk.I don't want to break up with him, and I think he doesn't either, but I don't know what to do. Any advice?
I forgot to mention that a week ago we had a pregnancy scare, and it end it me not being pregnant. He told he thought of it and he would have kept it, but I would. And we kind of argued with that.
Yes, I remember your post. (You DID go to a clinic, didn't you?!!!!)
Am I mistaken, or did his behavior change just when you were freaking out because you thought you were pregnant?
No advice about what to do. But for goodness sake, don't have unprotected sex with this guy. Neither of you is ready for that kind of complication in this relationship.
It's the first time I'm posting this... I think you counfuse me.
Unfortunately the pregnancy scare burst the honeymoon bubble, meaning he crash-landed onto the cold, hard ground from Cloud 9 (and probably thinks you've got marriage and kids all mapped out for him). All you can do is mirror his backing away movements, each time adding a fraction of your own on top, until he realises that no, he is not backing away from you, you're the one backing away from HIM (= loss of total control and choice). If he doesn't start to close the gap, you've lost nothing but something that was always going to end at this point in the proceedings anyway.
The event and subsequent talk disrupted the chase and wooing phase. So get him back into chase mode. It's a primitive instinct, meaning, all you have to run is RUN AWAY!
If it were me, therefore, I'd fail to turn up and see what he did - whether he panics and chases (or not), whereupon I'd have a pathetic excuse at the ready, the more pathetic the better.
He doesn't think he wants you? Well, let SEE about that, shall we? :-p