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Not the man i once was

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Been dating this girl for 3 years throughout the 3 years she has been acting really childish like not taking responsibility for things she has said and done and talking sh it about me on Facebook, trying to blame all the relationship problems on me. She's left me and throughout the relationship and had sex with her ex boyfriend but she tells me she loves me and I'm the perfect one for her but then she sent me a picture of a ring saying that somebody proposed to her and she won t tell me who. So she still talks to her ex boyfriend and post on Facebook saying she still has feelings for somebody but then blows it off when I ask her about it like my feelings don't matter to her and now she's not speaking with me because my ex girlfriend called to check on my mom because she was in the hospital I'm really in love with this girl and I want to leave I just need advice... I know this may not make any sense but she doesn't make any sense I just need help

Not the man i once was

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Your GF is a manipulative and controlling individual who is stringing you along with her actions and her little games. If you can state that she hasn't taken responsibility for the things she has said and done, then what does this tell you? You need someone who mirrors your standards and values and someone who will respect you as well as themselves. If you want to leave, then do so, because this will enable you to get on with your life rather than be dragged down to a negative level of uncertainty and unhappiness...it's that simple.

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That's very true,but i feel like I've been brainwashed and its really difficult to leave. It's like the less she cares and the more she points the finger at me and flips the situation on me, the moree I want to stay so I can fix the problem

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The problem is, is that you are too close to your issue to 'see' it properly. You need to step back and look at it from a different perspective. You have already started this process by taking your thoughts further and posting on this forum. She continues to feature in your life but in a negative way and she is controlling you if you feel you have to fix HER problems or the problems within your relationship. If you distance yourself from her and her manipulating ways, then she can't affect you. The sooner you surround yourself with well meaning people away from her, the sooner you will begin function normally and this includes not feeling responsible for her actions and deeds. This is easily said and damn hard to do, but once you take the first steps, the many more that you will need to walk become easier. You can't fix her, she is who she is, but you do have the choice to be true to yourself and keep yourself safe away from her.

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@MANALONE your right, but for some reason the stuff that she is posting is really bothering me. I unfollowed her but people tell me what she said, she says things like "time to find a real man" , " the grass was greener on the other side", "he ain't shit" and she keeps telling people that she's pregnant and that she make give it up for adoption I'm so annoyed andI really don't like her talking about me

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