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Education advice Ok, so the first thing I want to say is no, I'm not stupid I know all the rules to do with this. I'm not going to go and 'confess my love' do anything stupid etc... I just need to get this out because I just don't know who I can talk to but I need to get it off my chest.

I had this teacher last year as well and I liked them then but in the last few months I've been feeling really intense. I can't stop thinking about them. I see them and my heart won't stop and I freeze and I feel queasy. I end up accidently staring at them. I mean, it's not all bad, I work extra hard in their class so I'm one of their favourites. I'm 15 so yes I know I'm just crushing and it's hormones... But if it was anyone else I could talk about it. But because they're my teacher I just feel like even feeling this is illegal and I'm wrong and immoral. I have told one of my three best friends but I've only spoken about it about once. It's hitting me really hard because I'm very extroverted and I need to speak my mind but I can't. I don't know how to deal with this. It'll only stop when I stop seeing them regularly so once I leave school in June. It's just a long time to not tell anyone.

If you can even just reasuure me by telling me about your experiences or what you would do in my situation I would really appreciate it. Thanks...

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I've never had a crush on my teacher (even the handsome ones) so I can't relate. At that time in my life it was kind of a turn-off that we were not the same level and that nothing would ever come of it.

Are you usually attracted to older men? What is it about this teacher that you find so intriguing?

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To be honest, yes but as a fangirl, I've only really crushed on older men who are either celebrities or fictional characters... Also any boys I have ever liked my own age have always let me down e.g bullying me/dating my friends etc...

I think what I like most is that he makes me feel like I can do well if I want to. Like he out my grade up to an A which is higher than any of my other grades and when I asked how I could improve he said 'I like your attitude - I'm pleased that you want to aim as high as possible.' In my other lessons teachers tend to favour my friends as they're really smart but he makes me finally believe in myself.

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There's lots of kinds of "love."

You said "he makes me finally believe in myself." No wonder you have feelings for him! What a great affirmation for you - and a compliment, too!

But just know it's a crush, over-admiration, big brother type love substitute.

Let this teacher mentor and encourage you, and put it all in its place. He sounds like a good teacher to all his students.

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I understand where you're coming from. It's hard when you're young and the guys are kind of a let down in the chivalry department. Your crush doesn't seem to be affecting you in a negative way. Maybe you could channel your feelings into something creative. It might help to focus on all of the positive things you mentioned about him as a mentor rather than just a crush. You could work on a card (have everyone sign it) and maybe put together a gift basket for the end of the year. Good luck :)

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