Perhaps you have not been as vocal as you should have been.
Sit down and look at the NEW budget. Room should be made for your wishes, now.
Be firm on this and don't let him label you as a "martyr."
Now it appears to me that this is simply a challenge that you both need to group up and get over. Not you or him, both of you. You said he called you a martyr. Now please pardon me, i don't fully comprehend where the insult lies with the exception that it was intended negatively. However I am beyond impressed that you both seem classy enough that he hasn't called you a cuss word or a word really intended to cause you emotional harm. The word martyr has been turned into a negative thing nowadays in Western and even European culture. But in reality a martyr is someone who is an individual who is so dedicated to what they believe in, that they are willing to risk laying down their lives for the cause. In american society we call them the National Guard, Army Men, Marines and so on. My is intended as insult or not, I would take that as a compliment as that word alone has told everyone who reads that, that your that kind of mother and wife. Which is also obvious from the 21 years of life service. Last but not least, so long as he continues to remain your partner in the manner of which you both agreed prior to marriage and he doesnt...
become a abusive physically and emotionally.
still keeps to his duties as a father and husband for the most part.
Then is it possible to overlook this nearsighted action he took? If this becomes a common occurrence then having a discussion about it would become necessary. But also look at it from his viewpoint in this manner, to an extent he is correct. You also need to think about yourself at times. Don't go crazy, don't let him go crazy but also don't be crazy about being so dead set on one mindset or life can be miserable.
Discussion closed - why not create your own thread?