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i have been with my boyfriend for over 3years now we have had ups and downs and breakups almost every week.He has proved he loves me though its a distant relationship.when we first met he didnt tel me details abt himself after almost a year and a half,he told me he is a son to a senator.His dad passed away and the mom raised him as a single parent.The problem comes in that somebody i could refer to as a mother-in-law,is against us.Her main reason is that ladies from my country only love money from a guy.What is funny is that her late husband and i come from the same country.All our dreams are shuttered,my boyfriend is stresed to the fact that in a day we merely communicate,i knw the son and mom are now fighting over the fact that my boyfriend wants to relocate to his original country which is mine.He has decided to minimise our communication,i dont knw what to do now please help me

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What do you mean, he has decided to "minimize" your communication? Let's go over some things; This is a long distance relationship. You say you have arguments and breakups almost every week. His mother objects to the relationship. You say it's because of your cultural/ethnicity. Your BF says he wants to re-locate to another country. He is not communicating with you . Step back. It sounds like he has some issues to work out. His mother seems to have a great influence over him. But that might not be unusual. She wants the best for him. May I ask your ages? Have you two actually dated IN PERSON?

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yes we always meet when he comes to my country/his original country. He may explain the reason of his quietness as nt to stress me.whenever an arguement comes up he keeps quiet i want to respect that by giving time should i go ahead

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Go ahead with what? You can ask him if everything is OK, but you can't make him answer. How old are you two?

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go ahead to give him space,nt try to cal,email,or even texting him for as long as he may take. He is 24 and am 22

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Don't be so EXTREME!! You don't have to completely cut him off, but try not to smother him. Do you know the difference?

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amnt cutting him off but i feel he needs space and i dont knw how best i shd do it

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Mirror, Mirror, MIRROR. Everything he does (as in extent), you match. If he doesn't like 'the reflection' he's seeing, he'll stop doing the movements/lack of that you're mimicking. Simple as that.

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