I am smothering my boyfriend
It has just been brought to my attention that I am smothering my boyfriend. I didnt realize that this is what I was doing, I thought I was just showing him affection.
We love eachother, but I get so jealous when he talks to his female friends its crazy! I know that it should not bother me as much as it does, and I dont know how to stop. We have talked about how it is healthy for us to both have our own space, but I just cant seem to let go.
I want to text him all the time for no reason, I am always afraid that he will leave me for someone better. I know that what I am doing is wrong and can end up pushing him away from me.
I just dont know how to stop! Someone please help me
He is the best thing in my life and I dont want to loose him.
Why are you feeling so insecure? Does this happen in other areas of your life? (with possessions, family members, at the job, etc.)
Is there some adult that you can talk about this?
You are right: you are really pushing him away from you.
To give him his space, keep yourself engaged in something else. May be a new hobby or an activity. Spend time apart, only then the time together will become more magical.
Hi. It sounds bad think of a dog, if you run after a dog it's going to run in the other direction, run away from a dog and it's likely to chase you. If you keep your distance from him a bit, not holding he's hand, not hugging him as much etc.. . You will probably find he will come closer to you
Good advice, RUSTYBALBOA, which analogy works equally well with toddlers who run off and stop only if mum doesn't run after them.
But first, HARLEYQUINN03 - what I want to know is: *WHO* told you you were smothering your boyfriend?